Theres this girl I like and because I am utterly hopeless with girls I have no idea what she thinks or how shes feeling.
I met this girl years and years ago at school and was sort of friends for a bit but then didnt talk for about 5 years.
Then she just appeared last summer and spent the next 6 months skyping every few days as she was abroad and I was at Uni.
Realised I kinda liked her a bit again. I liked her before but was always too shy to ask her out. Then asked her out in the most awkward and cringy way possible when I was like 15 and she said no. That was 8 years ago - but Im still really embarrassed/bothered by it, so I dont really know how to act at the moment.
I dont really know how to ask someone out and make it clear that its a date, so instead Iv just been meeting up with her a lot with just us two - meals, drinks, cinema, movies in etc. Its pretty datey stuff, but it hasnt been arranged or discussed as such. I dont know whether or not she sees it as datey stuff, and I dont know whether or not to bring the subject up so Iv gone with the slightly incredulous plan of making plans with her which are essentially dates, but also acting casual with it as if they arent, just in case she doesnt think they are - sort of running forward and then running away again. (Yes, I am weird, keep reading).
I have no idea how she feels about stuff. She once mentioned it whilst we having drinks once, but due to a number of cretinous mishaps on my part (being slightly drunk, tired and having random times when I just blank out and am not aware of the conversation or anything around me and cant control it) and the fact that she talks very fast, I missed or couldnt remember what she said but I caught something at the end along the lines of her parents hoping we werent dating and that we were seeing how it goes. Madness. I have no idea what is going on.....
Additionally it got even more confusing recently - I was trying to arrange a time to come home from Uni because I wanted to see her and I was fed up of pretending I just happened to be around, so I sent a text that said something like "youre the only reason Id want to come back" and since then Iv had texts that seem oddly more relationshippy and/or flirty, messages about missing me, phone calls etc - but when I next met up with her it was pretty much the same as always. :confused:
It doesnt help at all that she is the only girl who has ever made me feel nervous. I felt nervous when I first knew her and I feel nervous now. Iv had long term relationships before, Iv dated people or pulled people before and never had any problem. Perhaps its just because Im 8 months into being single for the first time in 5 years, and finally at the point where I might be vaguely interested in getting to know someone else, but concious Iv completely forgotten how to go about it? But still - she specifically makes me nervous as hell. Whenever I see her my mouth goes so dry I can barely talk and everything I was thinking about talking about just buggers off and leaves me with "...oh god...oh..crap...panic....look at the sky......talk about the weather.....no dont do that, that is terrible....etc etc etc
So yeah I dont know how to act at the moment, or how to feel - I CERTAINLY dont know how SHE feels or is acting, so perhaps one of you confident, knowledgeable TSR peoples can clue me in a bit more.
Cheers.
I met this girl years and years ago at school and was sort of friends for a bit but then didnt talk for about 5 years.
Then she just appeared last summer and spent the next 6 months skyping every few days as she was abroad and I was at Uni.
Realised I kinda liked her a bit again. I liked her before but was always too shy to ask her out. Then asked her out in the most awkward and cringy way possible when I was like 15 and she said no. That was 8 years ago - but Im still really embarrassed/bothered by it, so I dont really know how to act at the moment.
I dont really know how to ask someone out and make it clear that its a date, so instead Iv just been meeting up with her a lot with just us two - meals, drinks, cinema, movies in etc. Its pretty datey stuff, but it hasnt been arranged or discussed as such. I dont know whether or not she sees it as datey stuff, and I dont know whether or not to bring the subject up so Iv gone with the slightly incredulous plan of making plans with her which are essentially dates, but also acting casual with it as if they arent, just in case she doesnt think they are - sort of running forward and then running away again. (Yes, I am weird, keep reading).
I have no idea how she feels about stuff. She once mentioned it whilst we having drinks once, but due to a number of cretinous mishaps on my part (being slightly drunk, tired and having random times when I just blank out and am not aware of the conversation or anything around me and cant control it) and the fact that she talks very fast, I missed or couldnt remember what she said but I caught something at the end along the lines of her parents hoping we werent dating and that we were seeing how it goes. Madness. I have no idea what is going on.....
Additionally it got even more confusing recently - I was trying to arrange a time to come home from Uni because I wanted to see her and I was fed up of pretending I just happened to be around, so I sent a text that said something like "youre the only reason Id want to come back" and since then Iv had texts that seem oddly more relationshippy and/or flirty, messages about missing me, phone calls etc - but when I next met up with her it was pretty much the same as always. :confused:
It doesnt help at all that she is the only girl who has ever made me feel nervous. I felt nervous when I first knew her and I feel nervous now. Iv had long term relationships before, Iv dated people or pulled people before and never had any problem. Perhaps its just because Im 8 months into being single for the first time in 5 years, and finally at the point where I might be vaguely interested in getting to know someone else, but concious Iv completely forgotten how to go about it? But still - she specifically makes me nervous as hell. Whenever I see her my mouth goes so dry I can barely talk and everything I was thinking about talking about just buggers off and leaves me with "...oh god...oh..crap...panic....look at the sky......talk about the weather.....no dont do that, that is terrible....etc etc etc
So yeah I dont know how to act at the moment, or how to feel - I CERTAINLY dont know how SHE feels or is acting, so perhaps one of you confident, knowledgeable TSR peoples can clue me in a bit more.
Cheers.
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