Hello everyone.
Guess I just need others opinions. Sorry this is so long but I want the whole story out. About five years ago I was going thru a bad divorce. Was married for about 20 years when my now ex husband started to cheat. Fast forward a year to me being on my own with my two girls I started to talk to my current husband. Was completely honest with him about my past and how bad I was hurt.
I expressed over and over again how important trust and honesty were to me. Everything seemed great I was finally able to trust someone again or so I thought. We were married in June 2012. A few months after we were married I had grabbed his laptop to look at some pictures of a business trip he had taken right before he asked me to marry him. Much to my surprise was a picture of who I thought was his ex girlfriend. I asked him about the picture only for him to lie to me about it. He tried to claim it wasn't her only to find out later it was. He was seeing her the whole time we were dating even after he pushed for us to be in a exclusive relationship. He stated he didn't know who he wanted to be with up until that trip but then decided he wanted to be with me and proposed a few months later. Really hurt that he made the choice to lie to me knowing how important trust was and given the fact he never had a reason to do so. I never pushed for a exclusive relationship he did.
Fast forward a few more months down the road another ex is contacting him. And again instead of being honest he made the choice to lie to me. I do know he was telling her to leave him alone but again dishonest with me about all of it.
Then more lies about him contacting someone on craigs list out of what he said with nothing more then curiosity on his part.
Now we are at the point where I need reinsurance from him to be able to trust again and he feels I'm wrong for that. He feels that the past needs to stay in the past and I should be able to truest him now because it's the past.
Makes me for like I'm in the wrong for the way I feel......am I?
Guess I just need others opinions. Sorry this is so long but I want the whole story out. About five years ago I was going thru a bad divorce. Was married for about 20 years when my now ex husband started to cheat. Fast forward a year to me being on my own with my two girls I started to talk to my current husband. Was completely honest with him about my past and how bad I was hurt.
I expressed over and over again how important trust and honesty were to me. Everything seemed great I was finally able to trust someone again or so I thought. We were married in June 2012. A few months after we were married I had grabbed his laptop to look at some pictures of a business trip he had taken right before he asked me to marry him. Much to my surprise was a picture of who I thought was his ex girlfriend. I asked him about the picture only for him to lie to me about it. He tried to claim it wasn't her only to find out later it was. He was seeing her the whole time we were dating even after he pushed for us to be in a exclusive relationship. He stated he didn't know who he wanted to be with up until that trip but then decided he wanted to be with me and proposed a few months later. Really hurt that he made the choice to lie to me knowing how important trust was and given the fact he never had a reason to do so. I never pushed for a exclusive relationship he did.
Fast forward a few more months down the road another ex is contacting him. And again instead of being honest he made the choice to lie to me. I do know he was telling her to leave him alone but again dishonest with me about all of it.
Then more lies about him contacting someone on craigs list out of what he said with nothing more then curiosity on his part.
Now we are at the point where I need reinsurance from him to be able to trust again and he feels I'm wrong for that. He feels that the past needs to stay in the past and I should be able to truest him now because it's the past.
Makes me for like I'm in the wrong for the way I feel......am I?
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