I have a male friend who I didn't know particularly well but who I've been meeting up with on-and-off for the past couple of years, as friends. (He was usually the one to initiate contact, and I was always quite surprised by how well he kept in touch considering how little we actually knew each other.) I then moved abroad and assume we'd lose touch as we didn't know each other particularly well. He nonetheless insisted on writng me a postcard over the summer when he was on holiday with his then g/f; he then wrote me a letter (in a card with hearts on, which may just have been coincidence as he also drew a doodle over some of the hearts) and sent me a Christmas present to my address abroad. I said, in the casual way you do, that he was always welcome to come & stay if he fancied visiting the city. To my surprise, he took me up on my offer (even though it turns out he knew the city very well, and had other people he could have stayed with but wanted to stay at my place) & booked a trip for a good few days. It turns out he'd split up with his girlfriend a few months ago.
We had a perfect few days together, got on incredibly well, didn't stop talking, share a lot of the same fundamental views. I have no idea if he just sees me as a friend (he does have a lot of female friends). We sat and walked close together and he clapped me on the shoulder and elbowed/nudged me a few times, winked a couple of times (!), looked deep in my eyes often, was very interested in everything I was doing and gave me the tightest hug when he left, saying again & again what a wonderful time he'd had and how he wished he could stay longer and would come again next year, but he didn't make any more move than that (although he did ask whether I was still seeing a guy I'd barely even remembered dating, and made a joke about how I must have been on so many Valentine's Day dates I wouldn't remember them all). There may have been a moment on the first night when we were both a bit drunk when he hesitated outside my room before going off to bed, and I sort of closed the door on him, but maybe I'm imagining all that (I was slightly tipsy).
Anyone able to shed any light on this?
Edit: I want to ask him straight out, but 1) I'm not sure how things would work given I live abroad and 2) I don't want to ruin what is developing into a beautiful friendship if he doesn't feel the same way, which is quite possible (I've been known to read the signs incorrectly with other guys, so am now very hesitant to lay my cards on the table).
We had a perfect few days together, got on incredibly well, didn't stop talking, share a lot of the same fundamental views. I have no idea if he just sees me as a friend (he does have a lot of female friends). We sat and walked close together and he clapped me on the shoulder and elbowed/nudged me a few times, winked a couple of times (!), looked deep in my eyes often, was very interested in everything I was doing and gave me the tightest hug when he left, saying again & again what a wonderful time he'd had and how he wished he could stay longer and would come again next year, but he didn't make any more move than that (although he did ask whether I was still seeing a guy I'd barely even remembered dating, and made a joke about how I must have been on so many Valentine's Day dates I wouldn't remember them all). There may have been a moment on the first night when we were both a bit drunk when he hesitated outside my room before going off to bed, and I sort of closed the door on him, but maybe I'm imagining all that (I was slightly tipsy).
Anyone able to shed any light on this?
Edit: I want to ask him straight out, but 1) I'm not sure how things would work given I live abroad and 2) I don't want to ruin what is developing into a beautiful friendship if he doesn't feel the same way, which is quite possible (I've been known to read the signs incorrectly with other guys, so am now very hesitant to lay my cards on the table).
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