I'm 19 at uni and never really had a girlfriend. For the last few years I'd fancy girls but never had the guts to ever make a move on them and sometimes even talk. Yet, I could never stop thinking about them all the time - which probably have serious effects on other stuff. I don't wanna say it but I think I may be depressed and don't need it right now because of all my all my work at uni.
From school I liked a girl for 2 years but we never really even talked beyond normal stuff work-related. When in college, I also fell for this girl (Who I still kind of like) we had our first year in the same class - never even talked, and second year I saw her all the time - and can still remember the instance! Both of these girls I'm never gonna see as they've moved on and have bfs. Even at uni I liked 2 girls who I attempted to make a move on and get to know, plus got good signs until I found out she had a bf. All of these cases left me feeling downright sad and pathetic at the same time. I always feel I have a gap in my heart which needs filling up, for about 5 years now I'd like a girl and would hopelessly think of situations where we could be together. Even atm I'm starting to develop feelings for a girl - who I previously wouldn't of liked that much, but since I've left all these girls behind there's always this gap which immediately gets filled. And once I fancy a gir l (and I will soon it's my nature), I cant stop thinking about her constantly.
I may be being over-sensitive but really I cant help it. I'm definitely not after sex either, I haven't even thought about having sex, I more just want to have someone in which I could just hug and call my gf. Personally, I'm not an arrogant person or anything, I am nice (at least that's what my flatmates tell me). But even this can be a disadvantage as I do think I'm quite boring at uni. Back at home I'd feel comfortable with my friends and can sometimes sound eccentrically crazy (in a funny way), but definitely not here. Also I don't drink or go clubbing I know this would make things easier, but I don't seriously see girls in a club as potential life partners - after all its not my thing. I don't consider myself bad-looking either, sometimes when walking around I do get looks from girls and in my lectures sometime I get glances, but I'm definitely not super hot - even if I was I dont think it would make my situation any better. I virtually have no friends at uni, I stay wit h my flatmates - but I never go nights out together. Most of the time I'm in my room like now just dreaming about things that will never happen - and its starting to affect me badly.
Of course some of you guys may tell me, focus on your studies - but seriously if I had a gf I would devote less time to her than if I hadn't and devoted my time dreaming about her! If I had one - in a sense it would calm me down. Also, I can be outgoing and do get along with ppl in my lectures and seminars - but this has never gone beyond that. What can I do I feel like if I don't get into a relationship here my chances will be severely minimized (if not, non existent) once I get older and enter work. Furthermore, I'd probably go on all my life developing feelings for girls which never goes anywhere in the real world. I may be told to man up and get confidence too, but ermm.... I feel quite embarrassed to say this but I think my manliness has faded and beyond repair because of my feelings...
Is there even a tiny bit of hope for me which I can have hope in? (even though I'm not usually a person who has faith in themselves)
From school I liked a girl for 2 years but we never really even talked beyond normal stuff work-related. When in college, I also fell for this girl (Who I still kind of like) we had our first year in the same class - never even talked, and second year I saw her all the time - and can still remember the instance! Both of these girls I'm never gonna see as they've moved on and have bfs. Even at uni I liked 2 girls who I attempted to make a move on and get to know, plus got good signs until I found out she had a bf. All of these cases left me feeling downright sad and pathetic at the same time. I always feel I have a gap in my heart which needs filling up, for about 5 years now I'd like a girl and would hopelessly think of situations where we could be together. Even atm I'm starting to develop feelings for a girl - who I previously wouldn't of liked that much, but since I've left all these girls behind there's always this gap which immediately gets filled. And once I fancy a gir l (and I will soon it's my nature), I cant stop thinking about her constantly.
I may be being over-sensitive but really I cant help it. I'm definitely not after sex either, I haven't even thought about having sex, I more just want to have someone in which I could just hug and call my gf. Personally, I'm not an arrogant person or anything, I am nice (at least that's what my flatmates tell me). But even this can be a disadvantage as I do think I'm quite boring at uni. Back at home I'd feel comfortable with my friends and can sometimes sound eccentrically crazy (in a funny way), but definitely not here. Also I don't drink or go clubbing I know this would make things easier, but I don't seriously see girls in a club as potential life partners - after all its not my thing. I don't consider myself bad-looking either, sometimes when walking around I do get looks from girls and in my lectures sometime I get glances, but I'm definitely not super hot - even if I was I dont think it would make my situation any better. I virtually have no friends at uni, I stay wit h my flatmates - but I never go nights out together. Most of the time I'm in my room like now just dreaming about things that will never happen - and its starting to affect me badly.
Of course some of you guys may tell me, focus on your studies - but seriously if I had a gf I would devote less time to her than if I hadn't and devoted my time dreaming about her! If I had one - in a sense it would calm me down. Also, I can be outgoing and do get along with ppl in my lectures and seminars - but this has never gone beyond that. What can I do I feel like if I don't get into a relationship here my chances will be severely minimized (if not, non existent) once I get older and enter work. Furthermore, I'd probably go on all my life developing feelings for girls which never goes anywhere in the real world. I may be told to man up and get confidence too, but ermm.... I feel quite embarrassed to say this but I think my manliness has faded and beyond repair because of my feelings...
Is there even a tiny bit of hope for me which I can have hope in? (even though I'm not usually a person who has faith in themselves)
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