He just couldn't do it

I just got out of a skype session with my counsellor who did a few sessions of MC with stbxh and I. Her take on things, very simply, was that he was not capable of the kind of emotional interaction necessary for relationship. She had not doubt that he WANTED to be close, but just couldn't do it. And if I think of it that way, I can be at peace and not bitter and not take it personally. It wasn't about me. It wasn't about what he wanted or not. It was about what he was capable of. And he wasn't capable of emotional connection.

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