I'm writing to find out if what I'm going through is normal or if I am overreacting.
My husband is driving me nuts. He works from home and we ARE going through a tremendously difficult time.
We moved to a new state 6 months ago. The first house we moved into developed mold problems. We were leasing and the owner said we could find a new place. The place we found was newly renovated. We were first to live in it -- and there was no hot water and then sewage came falling from the ceiling. The city shut down the house and we are now in a lawsuit with the landlord for return of our funds. We were locked out of our home because of all of this drama and crammed into temporary housing and we had very little. I hired an attorney and she helped us get our stuff. But that meant we did not have our computers -- wifi. My husband's business depends on this... I also work full time (but outside of the home) I did my best to have my husband come to my work for wifi when I could and set up a sitter for our child...so he could get some peace and quiet.
So we just had to move AGAIN this past weekend. I found the new house....but wifi isn't hooked up yet. It will be tomorrow. My husband has projects due. He went to starbucks today to use wifi. He kept calling me and texting me (while I'm at work) complaining that the wifi is overloaded...that the guy next to him smells like smoke.... that he can't stand the music at starbucks. He is so so negative. Trust me I am having a hard time TOO. I am now unpacking an entire house by myself....because my husband is "busy". If he's not working on work related stuff he's listening with his earbuds to football.
Our son (he's 8) asked me if Daddy could stop watching him in the afternoon...(he works from home and picks him up at school and is supposed to be watching him after) ...until I come home for dinner.
I asked why and he said that he's always mean and angry. That he never wants to spend time with him and that he wants me to stay home with him...because I'm not mean like Dad.
We have all been through a TON the last few months and it's been stressful. But, now I don't know how to find happiness. I must admit we weren't "happy" before....but now we are just miserable.
My husband is always glass half empty. it's his nature. But, I wasn't aware it was impacting our son so much. I'm thinking first step is to hire a nanny for our son -- part time.
And my husband may need to stop working for himself (he is not managing it well in the first 6 months working as his own boss). I just don't want to be unsupportive - but his constant calls and complaints are really wearing on me. I can't take anymore. I have told him this and he continues.
He literally sent me a video of the sewage coming from the ceiling while he Knew I was in a meeting at work. He has no respect for my feelings - and that I would obviously be scared and concerned when I see those types of things. Am I uncaring here?
My husband is driving me nuts. He works from home and we ARE going through a tremendously difficult time.
We moved to a new state 6 months ago. The first house we moved into developed mold problems. We were leasing and the owner said we could find a new place. The place we found was newly renovated. We were first to live in it -- and there was no hot water and then sewage came falling from the ceiling. The city shut down the house and we are now in a lawsuit with the landlord for return of our funds. We were locked out of our home because of all of this drama and crammed into temporary housing and we had very little. I hired an attorney and she helped us get our stuff. But that meant we did not have our computers -- wifi. My husband's business depends on this... I also work full time (but outside of the home) I did my best to have my husband come to my work for wifi when I could and set up a sitter for our child...so he could get some peace and quiet.
So we just had to move AGAIN this past weekend. I found the new house....but wifi isn't hooked up yet. It will be tomorrow. My husband has projects due. He went to starbucks today to use wifi. He kept calling me and texting me (while I'm at work) complaining that the wifi is overloaded...that the guy next to him smells like smoke.... that he can't stand the music at starbucks. He is so so negative. Trust me I am having a hard time TOO. I am now unpacking an entire house by myself....because my husband is "busy". If he's not working on work related stuff he's listening with his earbuds to football.
Our son (he's 8) asked me if Daddy could stop watching him in the afternoon...(he works from home and picks him up at school and is supposed to be watching him after) ...until I come home for dinner.
I asked why and he said that he's always mean and angry. That he never wants to spend time with him and that he wants me to stay home with him...because I'm not mean like Dad.
We have all been through a TON the last few months and it's been stressful. But, now I don't know how to find happiness. I must admit we weren't "happy" before....but now we are just miserable.
My husband is always glass half empty. it's his nature. But, I wasn't aware it was impacting our son so much. I'm thinking first step is to hire a nanny for our son -- part time.
And my husband may need to stop working for himself (he is not managing it well in the first 6 months working as his own boss). I just don't want to be unsupportive - but his constant calls and complaints are really wearing on me. I can't take anymore. I have told him this and he continues.
He literally sent me a video of the sewage coming from the ceiling while he Knew I was in a meeting at work. He has no respect for my feelings - and that I would obviously be scared and concerned when I see those types of things. Am I uncaring here?
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