Hey guys,
My wife and I have been married since last April. I'm 23, nearly 24, and she's 19. Ever since we got married, and even before we got married and were still dating, she has treated me pretty poorly. She was raised in a city, spoiled and given everything she wanted. I'm a small-town boy, and was raised spending most summers working on a farm.
She is extremely controlling, and any time she is home, it's "HER TIME". I have to do what she wants, watch the shows she wants, and have to ask for permission if I want to do anything otherwise, like take a bath. She has a hell of a temper, and a lot of the time something I say just trying to tease her or be playful, sets her off in a rage. Usually, she's pissed at me for atleast 6 hours, some times, 2 or 3 days. Around a month ago, we got into a fight and she actually dislocated my jaw.
I used to just bow to her every wish, and when she would get mad at me, I would just apologize and grovel. Lately, I've been fighting back, but things seem to have been getting worse and I'm finding myself dreading coming home to her. It's sad that I would rather be at my job, than spending time with my wife.
Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I loved her a lot more before we were married than I do now. Now I just dread being controlled by her, being yelled at by her, I just dread putting up with her immaturity.
I just need some help going in the right direction. People have said to me over and over again, to just get a divorce. I'm just not the quitting type, so it's really hard for me. I want to make this work, but I just don't know how. I've tried bowing to her will, and it was bad. I've tried fighting back for what I want, and it was worse. I've even tried being somewhere in the middle, and it was still terrible.
I've tried to have talks with her about her behavior, but every time I bring it up, she either gets pissed at me and it starts another fight, or she turns it around and tries to guilt trip me, saying that I don't care about her, or that I treat her badly and never help her around the house (which I do).
Another really annoying thing is, she's CONSTANTLY play-fighting with me. No matter what I do lately, she's always whining saying "You haaate me" or "You don't even like me". I CONSTANTLY kiss her, hug her, cuddle with her, tell her I love her, and it's just never enough.
Please try and steer me in the right direction. At this point, I don't know if there's any way to save my marriage, or if I should just call it quits. Either way, I'm tired of feeling miserable.
Thanks..
My wife and I have been married since last April. I'm 23, nearly 24, and she's 19. Ever since we got married, and even before we got married and were still dating, she has treated me pretty poorly. She was raised in a city, spoiled and given everything she wanted. I'm a small-town boy, and was raised spending most summers working on a farm.
She is extremely controlling, and any time she is home, it's "HER TIME". I have to do what she wants, watch the shows she wants, and have to ask for permission if I want to do anything otherwise, like take a bath. She has a hell of a temper, and a lot of the time something I say just trying to tease her or be playful, sets her off in a rage. Usually, she's pissed at me for atleast 6 hours, some times, 2 or 3 days. Around a month ago, we got into a fight and she actually dislocated my jaw.
I used to just bow to her every wish, and when she would get mad at me, I would just apologize and grovel. Lately, I've been fighting back, but things seem to have been getting worse and I'm finding myself dreading coming home to her. It's sad that I would rather be at my job, than spending time with my wife.
Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I loved her a lot more before we were married than I do now. Now I just dread being controlled by her, being yelled at by her, I just dread putting up with her immaturity.
I just need some help going in the right direction. People have said to me over and over again, to just get a divorce. I'm just not the quitting type, so it's really hard for me. I want to make this work, but I just don't know how. I've tried bowing to her will, and it was bad. I've tried fighting back for what I want, and it was worse. I've even tried being somewhere in the middle, and it was still terrible.
I've tried to have talks with her about her behavior, but every time I bring it up, she either gets pissed at me and it starts another fight, or she turns it around and tries to guilt trip me, saying that I don't care about her, or that I treat her badly and never help her around the house (which I do).
Another really annoying thing is, she's CONSTANTLY play-fighting with me. No matter what I do lately, she's always whining saying "You haaate me" or "You don't even like me". I CONSTANTLY kiss her, hug her, cuddle with her, tell her I love her, and it's just never enough.
Please try and steer me in the right direction. At this point, I don't know if there's any way to save my marriage, or if I should just call it quits. Either way, I'm tired of feeling miserable.
Thanks..
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