Hi guys,
Following on from a post of mine a few weeks ago where I suspected that my girlfriend might be flirting with my best friend, it turns out that they had been kissing and eventually had sex behind my back. Despite my earlier suspicions, I did not expect it to run so deep!
The problem here isn't so much that my girlfriend cheated on me. If she had screwed some random geezer, I would be upset, but probably about 5% of the level of upset compared to how I currently feel.
The main problem is that I live with my friend. (Let's call him 'Tosspot'). Tosspot's parents and siblings have sided with me and practically disowned him. I haven't seen him since I found out about the cheating - he rapidly fled to a friend's house in another city.
I should probably highlight how close me and Tosspot were. He was undoubtedly my best friend of over ten years. We have lived together for 2 years, travelled together, helped each other through thick and thin. Think of Joey and Chandler times a million! The fact he has done this is excruciating. Not only was it a quick shag, but they were plotting how to get rid of me so they could live happily ever after.
I found out by snooping on my girlfriend's (let's call her Slagathor) phone, after knowing that they regularly texted and had met up a few times when I wasn't around.
Slagathor was also a long term friend of mine. We were extremely close friends for 4 years, after which we had a brief romance of around 8 months.
Does anyone have any kind of advice/experience with how to deal with this?! I am completely destroyed knowing that the two people I trusted most, and would have done anything for, clearly didn't give a crap about me.
I have no idea how to deal with the living arrangements. Tosspot is back tomorrow and I'm quite certain it will descend into me stamping on his head several times.
As for Slagathor, I've dumped her (obviously) and after several conversations consisting of me asking for an explanation from her, and her repeatedly apologising, I am no longer speaking to her.
Haven't spoken to Tosspot except for a few texts. Both Tosspot and Slagathor are very apologetic, depressed, and are assuring me that nothing will ever happen between them again. This of course could be a load of lies, just like the hundreds of lies they have been telling me, our friends, and their own families.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
By the way, we're all 22 years old.
Following on from a post of mine a few weeks ago where I suspected that my girlfriend might be flirting with my best friend, it turns out that they had been kissing and eventually had sex behind my back. Despite my earlier suspicions, I did not expect it to run so deep!
The problem here isn't so much that my girlfriend cheated on me. If she had screwed some random geezer, I would be upset, but probably about 5% of the level of upset compared to how I currently feel.
The main problem is that I live with my friend. (Let's call him 'Tosspot'). Tosspot's parents and siblings have sided with me and practically disowned him. I haven't seen him since I found out about the cheating - he rapidly fled to a friend's house in another city.
I should probably highlight how close me and Tosspot were. He was undoubtedly my best friend of over ten years. We have lived together for 2 years, travelled together, helped each other through thick and thin. Think of Joey and Chandler times a million! The fact he has done this is excruciating. Not only was it a quick shag, but they were plotting how to get rid of me so they could live happily ever after.
I found out by snooping on my girlfriend's (let's call her Slagathor) phone, after knowing that they regularly texted and had met up a few times when I wasn't around.
Slagathor was also a long term friend of mine. We were extremely close friends for 4 years, after which we had a brief romance of around 8 months.
Does anyone have any kind of advice/experience with how to deal with this?! I am completely destroyed knowing that the two people I trusted most, and would have done anything for, clearly didn't give a crap about me.
I have no idea how to deal with the living arrangements. Tosspot is back tomorrow and I'm quite certain it will descend into me stamping on his head several times.
As for Slagathor, I've dumped her (obviously) and after several conversations consisting of me asking for an explanation from her, and her repeatedly apologising, I am no longer speaking to her.
Haven't spoken to Tosspot except for a few texts. Both Tosspot and Slagathor are very apologetic, depressed, and are assuring me that nothing will ever happen between them again. This of course could be a load of lies, just like the hundreds of lies they have been telling me, our friends, and their own families.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
By the way, we're all 22 years old.
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