For anyone doesn't know my story, we are in the sixties, married for 20+ years. No children together but we have adult children from previous marriage.
A year ago, after a serious operation for colon cancer, my ex-to-be started correspond with a former mistress whom he had a ten year affair with during his first marriage. I did not know their affair was that long when I married him. Anyway, they carried on by email, and Skype.
I knew about the emotional affair in April, asking him to stop it. He kept on so I filed for divorce. He lied to me and said they were just friends. Last month he went behind my back, flew to her town and saw her. When he was back home, after I found receipts, he confessed they met in his hotel for 3 days but no sex involved. He said they were both old and he could not get it up. I went ahead with the divorce and it be final next week.
I still live in the same house with him until I find a place. I still own half of the house.
Here are my questions
1) should I believe his claim of no sex involved, just talking to catch up for 30 years not seeing each other?
2) should I text the OW and curse her out?
3) should I email her husband to tell him about their hotel meeting? My ex-to-be said OW could sue me for harassing.
4) my ex-to-be fell off a scooter two days ago and jammed his hip very bad. He's ok but cannot walk on left leg. He uses a rolling dining chair as wheelchair to move around inside our house. I already bought ticket to spend Holidays with my sister after next week final at court. Should I cancel the trip to stay home because he's injured?
I guess I still care about him but he hurt me so much. What should I do? Thank you ahead for your advice.
A year ago, after a serious operation for colon cancer, my ex-to-be started correspond with a former mistress whom he had a ten year affair with during his first marriage. I did not know their affair was that long when I married him. Anyway, they carried on by email, and Skype.
I knew about the emotional affair in April, asking him to stop it. He kept on so I filed for divorce. He lied to me and said they were just friends. Last month he went behind my back, flew to her town and saw her. When he was back home, after I found receipts, he confessed they met in his hotel for 3 days but no sex involved. He said they were both old and he could not get it up. I went ahead with the divorce and it be final next week.
I still live in the same house with him until I find a place. I still own half of the house.
Here are my questions
1) should I believe his claim of no sex involved, just talking to catch up for 30 years not seeing each other?
2) should I text the OW and curse her out?
3) should I email her husband to tell him about their hotel meeting? My ex-to-be said OW could sue me for harassing.
4) my ex-to-be fell off a scooter two days ago and jammed his hip very bad. He's ok but cannot walk on left leg. He uses a rolling dining chair as wheelchair to move around inside our house. I already bought ticket to spend Holidays with my sister after next week final at court. Should I cancel the trip to stay home because he's injured?
I guess I still care about him but he hurt me so much. What should I do? Thank you ahead for your advice.
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