I'm an 18 year old female, by the way. I've always been shy and recently I've realised that my shyness is to do with a lack of confidence in my personality. I'm not insecure about my looks, I have days where I feel ugly but nothing out of the ordinary. If I ever feel insecure I find that looking at photos of when I was a child help because it changes my focus from worrying that I'm unattractive to accepting my looks as being ME.
But I'm unconfident with my personality when it comes to other people and I don't know why.
I know that I am a kind person who is reasonably intelligent and not strange. In class for example, if I know the right answer I will never volunteer it and if I'm in a group and I know the answer I'll say something like "erm... I'm not sure. I mean maybe it's xyz but I'm not really sure..." when I know that 100% it is correct. If I'm with friends and they're discussing music and they say they dislike my favourite artist I'll agree with them, even though I know they're decent and liking them is nothing to be ashamed of. It sounds silly but I worry about everything, worried that someone will think I'm creepy if I accidently make eye-contact. I know I'm not creepy so I don't understand why it worries me so much.
Like today I was in class and I had finished my work and I needed to call my teacher who was three feet away and ask her for a mark scheme. But I couldn't do it because I was embarrassed. Logically, I know there's nothing weird, embarrassing or rude doing this but I just couldn't do it so I pretended that I wasn't finished.
Any advice please? Thank you.
But I'm unconfident with my personality when it comes to other people and I don't know why.
I know that I am a kind person who is reasonably intelligent and not strange. In class for example, if I know the right answer I will never volunteer it and if I'm in a group and I know the answer I'll say something like "erm... I'm not sure. I mean maybe it's xyz but I'm not really sure..." when I know that 100% it is correct. If I'm with friends and they're discussing music and they say they dislike my favourite artist I'll agree with them, even though I know they're decent and liking them is nothing to be ashamed of. It sounds silly but I worry about everything, worried that someone will think I'm creepy if I accidently make eye-contact. I know I'm not creepy so I don't understand why it worries me so much.
Like today I was in class and I had finished my work and I needed to call my teacher who was three feet away and ask her for a mark scheme. But I couldn't do it because I was embarrassed. Logically, I know there's nothing weird, embarrassing or rude doing this but I just couldn't do it so I pretended that I wasn't finished.
Any advice please? Thank you.
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