What to do?

So, I've been married for nearly 5 years. We built a new home together, and moved his mom in with us. It has not been easy. I very rarely have my husband to myself.

I take care of paying all the bills, I keep the house clean, I do the laundry, and I work full time. His mother is elderly and though she has her own room and bath, she shares the kitchen, so I find myself cleaning up after her nearly daily.

My husband works long hours, so when he gets home he is tired. I always have supper ready for him. He is a good provider, mild mannered, and does not complain. He doesn't drink and comes home every night, which is more than I can say for my first husband!

Here's the problem...He shows little to no interest in sex or even touching. He thinks affection is for teenagers. Our sex life consists of me performing oral to get him ready then I usually get less than 5 minutes for me. He's "too tired" most of the time, and I cannot tell you when he initiated intimacy last.

I am at the end of my rope...I've tied a knot in it and am hanging on, but I am desperately in need of more! I am a good person who obviously puts up with ALOT from this man, so why does he make me feel like I am nagging when I ask for intimacy?

I find myself feeling angry at silly things and do not like the person I have become. A big part of me thinks I should just file for divorce and move on, but we are financially tied together and it would be such a PAIN! I'm an intelligent woman with a good career, but I think my Christian upbringing makes me scared to "be the bad guy".

The icing on the cake is that I met another man who seems genuinely interested in me. Nothing significant has happened, but we have developed a friendship very easily, have alot in common, and I am physically attracted to him...I know there would be more if I allowed it.

Is my interest just because I am so lonely and feel isolated, or is it that I need to be open to the possibility that my marriage needs to end so that I can maybe be happy?

Any comments, suggestions, concerns...please share.:confused:

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