So, a bit of background... I'm a girl, at an all girls' school, and I got together with my girlfriend just over five months ago. We're both sixteen. It's been amazing, I love her so much and she's got me through some really bad times.
Lately, though, we've had problems. We both suffer from severe depression, but have different ways of coping with it. I prefer to hide it and force myself to function as normal, while she tends to isolate herself from other people.
The past few weeks, it's been really bad for her, and I've tried to help her through it, but it's been hard. Over the past week, she's stopped speaking to me completely, and any time we sit next to each other in class (which is most classes), she turns her chair away from me, moves her books over to the other side of the desk, and stares into space, refusing to speak. When I do try and start a conversation with her, she replies monosyllabically: "yeah", "no", "sure", that sort of thing. When I wait for her outside lessons, she walks straight past me, refusing to acknowledge my existence. And during lunch breaks, she moves her stuff over to the opposite side of the room from wherever I'm sitting, turns her chair away from me, and sits there in silence. For an hour. If we're on the same sports team, she folds her arms and stands to the side, not even looking at me, and doesn't speak at all. Over the last few days, this has extended to texting as well; while before she at least spoke to me normally, if rarely, over text, now she won't text me at all, and if I start a conversation I get one word answers.
I'm trying my best, constantly nudging her and asking if she's okay, letting her know that she can talk to me about anything. I'm doing everything I can think of while still giving her space, and not putting too much pressure on her. Last time I asked if she wanted to talk, she lost her temper and shouted, then didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.
Please, I don't know what I should do, I'm trying my best to be supportive but it's like she doesn't even see how this is affecting other people. I've had to leave the room to go and cry or punch a wall or something because I'm trying so hard and she's not giving me anything. I have another friend who's suicidal, friends who are falling out constantly, and I've turned into the go-to person for them. I can cope with everybody else's problems, but only if they speak to me, and I'm getting nothing from here.
At first I thought she was angry with me, but I haven't done anything, and she's acting like this with everyone-except one person. My best friend is the only one she'll speak to, and she's the only one who can make her laugh, but apart from that she sits in silence staring into space all day. I don't know what I do, I've given her all the help and support I can but she won't take any of it, and I can't deal with it anymore. I know how selfish that makes me, but my own health is suffering and I need this to stop because I can't stand the idea of her being in pain.
Please, help?
Lately, though, we've had problems. We both suffer from severe depression, but have different ways of coping with it. I prefer to hide it and force myself to function as normal, while she tends to isolate herself from other people.
The past few weeks, it's been really bad for her, and I've tried to help her through it, but it's been hard. Over the past week, she's stopped speaking to me completely, and any time we sit next to each other in class (which is most classes), she turns her chair away from me, moves her books over to the other side of the desk, and stares into space, refusing to speak. When I do try and start a conversation with her, she replies monosyllabically: "yeah", "no", "sure", that sort of thing. When I wait for her outside lessons, she walks straight past me, refusing to acknowledge my existence. And during lunch breaks, she moves her stuff over to the opposite side of the room from wherever I'm sitting, turns her chair away from me, and sits there in silence. For an hour. If we're on the same sports team, she folds her arms and stands to the side, not even looking at me, and doesn't speak at all. Over the last few days, this has extended to texting as well; while before she at least spoke to me normally, if rarely, over text, now she won't text me at all, and if I start a conversation I get one word answers.
I'm trying my best, constantly nudging her and asking if she's okay, letting her know that she can talk to me about anything. I'm doing everything I can think of while still giving her space, and not putting too much pressure on her. Last time I asked if she wanted to talk, she lost her temper and shouted, then didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.
Please, I don't know what I should do, I'm trying my best to be supportive but it's like she doesn't even see how this is affecting other people. I've had to leave the room to go and cry or punch a wall or something because I'm trying so hard and she's not giving me anything. I have another friend who's suicidal, friends who are falling out constantly, and I've turned into the go-to person for them. I can cope with everybody else's problems, but only if they speak to me, and I'm getting nothing from here.
At first I thought she was angry with me, but I haven't done anything, and she's acting like this with everyone-except one person. My best friend is the only one she'll speak to, and she's the only one who can make her laugh, but apart from that she sits in silence staring into space all day. I don't know what I do, I've given her all the help and support I can but she won't take any of it, and I can't deal with it anymore. I know how selfish that makes me, but my own health is suffering and I need this to stop because I can't stand the idea of her being in pain.
Please, help?
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