Last weekend I caught my husband cheating. I had been suspicious for about a month. He started a new job and all of a sudden his cell phone was MIA and he was on our home phone with her at 10:00 p.m. (right after I went to bed). I casually asked him what was going on and he said she was a friend. I told him I trusted that nothing inappropriate was going on. Then he started going out every night and not coming home, still I naively trusted him. He said he was out with his new co-workers.
Last Saturday he left our house at 12:30 p.m. and didn't return home all night. I was blowing up his cell phone every 10 minutes, and he didn't even have the respect to call me back. That's when I went to our cell phone bill, which is in my name. There were over 1000+ minutes in calls to one number and 800+ texts to that same number. I was devastated. I kept calling him and out of desperation got into his voicemail where I found three voicemails from her. A friend doesn't call another woman's husband, "baby", "sweetie", and especially "The kids are at their dad's and I want to see you."
Through reverse phone lookup I confirmed the cell phone number and to make it worse I had seen the same number on our home phone. Wrong or not, I texted this woman and hold her to tell my husband to bring his ass home. He turned his cell phone off and she texted me back a nasty gram. It was so defensive it smelled of guilt.
He finally got home at 11:00 a.m. on Sunday. I played him the three voicemails I have retrieved from his cell phone and I was sobbing. He showed no remorse and didn't even say he was sorry. He looked me straight in the face and told me I was a crazy and paranoid b**** and she was just a friend.
Still emotional I logged into his Facebook and sent her a message as him. For the record, his FB info is saved on my computer where he had last logged on. Days went by and she took the bait and replied back that she misses her baby. This is not my proudest moment, but emotion took over. They have both since deactivated their Facebook pages, as have I. This is also my closure. She's just as stupid as he is. Even after they had both been confronted you would think she would think twice about responded to some out of the blue Facebook message from him. But, whatever....
After 16 years of marriage we're headed to divorce. The cheating is awful. I don't even care that he doesn't love me anymore, but what hurts the most is not showing any remorse or even saying that he's sorry to his wife of 16 years. It's cruel and it's torture. Plus, they are still communicating, although not as frequently, and he's still been spending the night at her house. I have never known people to be this cruel and hurtful.
I can only imagine the lies that he is telling her....
I'm going back to my therapist tomorrow to help me deal with all of this, but in the meantime I would love any advice on how to get through this.
Thank you.
Last Saturday he left our house at 12:30 p.m. and didn't return home all night. I was blowing up his cell phone every 10 minutes, and he didn't even have the respect to call me back. That's when I went to our cell phone bill, which is in my name. There were over 1000+ minutes in calls to one number and 800+ texts to that same number. I was devastated. I kept calling him and out of desperation got into his voicemail where I found three voicemails from her. A friend doesn't call another woman's husband, "baby", "sweetie", and especially "The kids are at their dad's and I want to see you."
Through reverse phone lookup I confirmed the cell phone number and to make it worse I had seen the same number on our home phone. Wrong or not, I texted this woman and hold her to tell my husband to bring his ass home. He turned his cell phone off and she texted me back a nasty gram. It was so defensive it smelled of guilt.
He finally got home at 11:00 a.m. on Sunday. I played him the three voicemails I have retrieved from his cell phone and I was sobbing. He showed no remorse and didn't even say he was sorry. He looked me straight in the face and told me I was a crazy and paranoid b**** and she was just a friend.
Still emotional I logged into his Facebook and sent her a message as him. For the record, his FB info is saved on my computer where he had last logged on. Days went by and she took the bait and replied back that she misses her baby. This is not my proudest moment, but emotion took over. They have both since deactivated their Facebook pages, as have I. This is also my closure. She's just as stupid as he is. Even after they had both been confronted you would think she would think twice about responded to some out of the blue Facebook message from him. But, whatever....
After 16 years of marriage we're headed to divorce. The cheating is awful. I don't even care that he doesn't love me anymore, but what hurts the most is not showing any remorse or even saying that he's sorry to his wife of 16 years. It's cruel and it's torture. Plus, they are still communicating, although not as frequently, and he's still been spending the night at her house. I have never known people to be this cruel and hurtful.
I can only imagine the lies that he is telling her....
I'm going back to my therapist tomorrow to help me deal with all of this, but in the meantime I would love any advice on how to get through this.
Thank you.
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