I haven't posted in a few weeks. Life has been busy, but mostly I wanted to start focusing on the positives in my life and I could not do that while focusing on the sex thing.
Quick recap: I'm a lady who wants more sex than her man. He doesn't initiate and will not lead at all. Seems indifferent to sex and often turns it down. :confused:
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After a year of waiting for him to initiate and trying to allow him to lead...which led to unsatisfied sex.... I went back to being the aggressor.
We have had some fairly intense discussions about the situation. In response I have quit asking him to initiate. In return he is initiating more. The difference is that once he initiates, instead of leaving it to him to lead I take over. That seems to be working better. Because left on his own he was really lost on what to do. He said he was always satisfied with the sex, but I was NOT.
He has been trying to branch out and try new things. I am trying to have patience during this learning curve, but it is not always easy. It's as if he does not enjoy doing most of it. I give him feedback/instruction and we have success. But then the next session it is like he forgot everything he did last time. This is the part I am having the most difficulty with.
I did buy some books too that were suggest by others here. So hoping that will help.
Quick recap: I'm a lady who wants more sex than her man. He doesn't initiate and will not lead at all. Seems indifferent to sex and often turns it down. :confused:
*************
After a year of waiting for him to initiate and trying to allow him to lead...which led to unsatisfied sex.... I went back to being the aggressor.
We have had some fairly intense discussions about the situation. In response I have quit asking him to initiate. In return he is initiating more. The difference is that once he initiates, instead of leaving it to him to lead I take over. That seems to be working better. Because left on his own he was really lost on what to do. He said he was always satisfied with the sex, but I was NOT.
He has been trying to branch out and try new things. I am trying to have patience during this learning curve, but it is not always easy. It's as if he does not enjoy doing most of it. I give him feedback/instruction and we have success. But then the next session it is like he forgot everything he did last time. This is the part I am having the most difficulty with.
I did buy some books too that were suggest by others here. So hoping that will help.
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