This is a long story and I will try to keep it short. I suspect many answers may question my sanity (or perhaps senality) but so be it.
In 1972 I met a lady at college who came on to me. She was beautiful, 3 years younger and wonderfull to talk to. We were both adults in our 30's and both married to someone else. We discovered we both had very bad marriages. After getting to know one another well we seperated from our spouses and got our own place. We were absolutly made for one another! We were both very much in love and enjoying life together. This lasted 5 years until 1978. After the first 3 years her divorce was final, mine was not due to demands by my wife which my lawyer said were not acceptable and I agreed. In early 1978 my oldest son was to be married in Europe. My lady wanted to go to the wedding with me. My wifes family, who are highly religious, refused to accept that. Thus I went alone and, in hindsight, this was probably a mistake. When I returned after 5 days my lady acted strange and distant. Finally she told me while I was gone she went to a bar and picked up a guy and slept with him. Quite a shock to me! I loved her so deeply I would never have considered such a thing. Thinking it over I told her I forgave her and lets get on with our life together. She then told me she wanted to keep seeing this guy. Well, we split and got our own places and eventually married others. My marriage has never worked out for many reason but because we had children we stayed together. We are now seperated. As to my lady friend I kept track of her through articles on the internet as she participated in sports and was sometimes in the news. I tried contacting her three times over the years, wanting to just have a friendly chat. She never answered me. Recently I saw an obit that her husband died in October of this year. Now she is a widow, I am seperated. It would be the fullfilment of my greatest dreams if we could somehow establish communications and then perhaps work out a way to be together again. I need some help here, some ideas. Perhaps some of the ladies here would have some helpfull info? We are both now senoiur citizens by a long shot but I still love her dearly and always will. She may not even know I exist or care if I do. What to do? I just can not do nothing. No action, no results! I know what many have to say about getting on with life and forget her. Well, although we are both in good health life is much shorter now for us than ever. She lives 16 hours drive from me in another state. She visits her daughter at times in a city 30 min from me.
In 1972 I met a lady at college who came on to me. She was beautiful, 3 years younger and wonderfull to talk to. We were both adults in our 30's and both married to someone else. We discovered we both had very bad marriages. After getting to know one another well we seperated from our spouses and got our own place. We were absolutly made for one another! We were both very much in love and enjoying life together. This lasted 5 years until 1978. After the first 3 years her divorce was final, mine was not due to demands by my wife which my lawyer said were not acceptable and I agreed. In early 1978 my oldest son was to be married in Europe. My lady wanted to go to the wedding with me. My wifes family, who are highly religious, refused to accept that. Thus I went alone and, in hindsight, this was probably a mistake. When I returned after 5 days my lady acted strange and distant. Finally she told me while I was gone she went to a bar and picked up a guy and slept with him. Quite a shock to me! I loved her so deeply I would never have considered such a thing. Thinking it over I told her I forgave her and lets get on with our life together. She then told me she wanted to keep seeing this guy. Well, we split and got our own places and eventually married others. My marriage has never worked out for many reason but because we had children we stayed together. We are now seperated. As to my lady friend I kept track of her through articles on the internet as she participated in sports and was sometimes in the news. I tried contacting her three times over the years, wanting to just have a friendly chat. She never answered me. Recently I saw an obit that her husband died in October of this year. Now she is a widow, I am seperated. It would be the fullfilment of my greatest dreams if we could somehow establish communications and then perhaps work out a way to be together again. I need some help here, some ideas. Perhaps some of the ladies here would have some helpfull info? We are both now senoiur citizens by a long shot but I still love her dearly and always will. She may not even know I exist or care if I do. What to do? I just can not do nothing. No action, no results! I know what many have to say about getting on with life and forget her. Well, although we are both in good health life is much shorter now for us than ever. She lives 16 hours drive from me in another state. She visits her daughter at times in a city 30 min from me.
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