So my husband has OCD, specifically pertaining to germs or contamination, or with identity theft (to the point where is holds on to receipts or paycheck stubs for YEARS). This leads to a lot of stress for both of us since I am only allowed to clean with vinegar and water if he is around (which is fine), but heaven forbid, I set something in a place he deemed as contaminated he freaks out. So I feel like I give up on cleaning because I'm doing it "wrong"....and yet he gets so overwhelmed that he doesn't do it.
His bleeding hands from washing them so often doesn't even signal that something is wrong, he thinks it's just excessively dry skin (or that there's a health issue to freak about).
He once got rid of a perfectly good car because at the time he was working at a factory that had chemicals and when he quit he had to get rid of the contaminated car.
Some of the habits he has (like changing socks every time he moves from our first floor to second floor) are manageable. The controlling issue that goes with it, is very hard. Sadly he won't seek help, probably ever.
I want to be supportive of him as a person without having to bend over backwards to accommodate his behaviors when they are unreasonable.
His bleeding hands from washing them so often doesn't even signal that something is wrong, he thinks it's just excessively dry skin (or that there's a health issue to freak about).
He once got rid of a perfectly good car because at the time he was working at a factory that had chemicals and when he quit he had to get rid of the contaminated car.
Some of the habits he has (like changing socks every time he moves from our first floor to second floor) are manageable. The controlling issue that goes with it, is very hard. Sadly he won't seek help, probably ever.
I want to be supportive of him as a person without having to bend over backwards to accommodate his behaviors when they are unreasonable.
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