I work about 55-60 hrs a week, my wife works 35 plus is in school part-time. Weekdays our toddler is with grandparents two days, part-time nanny three days, and then evenings I'm with the toddler two days and both of us are home three days. We spend weekends together but it's not uncommon for one or both of us to have to get some work done on the weekend too.
We've had this arrangement about two months now, and I feel like I notice a change in my 20-month-old -- she seems less happy, more anxious, a little more clingy to mom when she's there, more tantrumy. I can't really tell whether I'm seeing the effects of stress or just the onset of "terrible twos." It's not like the toddler is unhappy all the time, just more than before (she was really well-adjusted for a long time).
I guess my questions are (1) is our arrangement bad for our child? Is it possible that the constant switches between parents/grandparents/nanny are too much for her? (2) is there anything we can do to lessen the stress of the situation if we don't change it? (3) is it possible I'm just letting my parental guilt talk and that there's actually nothing all that wrong here?
We've had this arrangement about two months now, and I feel like I notice a change in my 20-month-old -- she seems less happy, more anxious, a little more clingy to mom when she's there, more tantrumy. I can't really tell whether I'm seeing the effects of stress or just the onset of "terrible twos." It's not like the toddler is unhappy all the time, just more than before (she was really well-adjusted for a long time).
I guess my questions are (1) is our arrangement bad for our child? Is it possible that the constant switches between parents/grandparents/nanny are too much for her? (2) is there anything we can do to lessen the stress of the situation if we don't change it? (3) is it possible I'm just letting my parental guilt talk and that there's actually nothing all that wrong here?
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