Separated and Husband started dating an old friend.

Hi everyone! I just join TAM today to get your help. I am married for 4 years and we've been together for 6 years (total). During those times I was taking care of my husband, his pets, the messy household. when we first met, we were just phone pals for 6 months before we decided to meet in person. A month after we met he had surgery on the neck because of work related injury and since nobody was there for him at the hospital, I drove for 2 hours to see him and stayed with. After the hospitalization he stayed in my house. That's when I felt like it's a whirlwind romance. He moved in with me at my house and left his house and dogs. I wasn't ready to have alive-in partner then but after a year of he proposed and just still couldn't bring myself to say no because he was loving, thoughtful, very good looking and charming. But there was a catch, although you could say he has his own house almost fully paid. He was unemployed and on a disability. So we got married in 2009. But because he can't work, I had to pay for most of our dinner dates. the first 9 months of living together, he helped pay half of the rent but the rest of the 3 year lease I was paying the whole $1600/monthly rent by myself. I paid most of the household bills and he paid his multiple auto insurance. I paid for groceries and he doesn't. And when his father passed away in March 2011 he inherited almost $500,000. Majority of the inheritance was used to buy us a house and improve it then pay off his credit cards. The money is gone now. But at least the house is fully paid along with the new furniture and appliances. We always fight about almost anything. I am sensitive and I feel that I don't get enough respect from him. The resentment came from being a wife turned into a muscled tough wife to helped him lift his collections of pinball machine and other heavy stuff. He is a hoarder and likes to collect while I'm minimalist and I hated all of it. My minor daughter lives with us and they don't get along well. So that's one of the issues, being blended family. He wants me to follow through with my discipline method and it always causes problems between us. My daughter turned into reclusive, depressed teenager who developed eating disorder and started cutting herself. I never knew until last May 2013 that she is hurting herself. The fact that my husband will have fourth back surgery added to my anxiety. He had 4 total surgeries by the time we separated. and every /time I get exhausted and emotional because of fights, I always say I want out of this marriage but I never left since my love for him is stronger. Then June 19 he was frustrated with a couple of and he all of a sudden yelled at me screaming at the top of his lungs that I can leave him now since it what I have been saying since day one. I never meant to end my marriage, most of my outburst was due to emotional exhaustion. He was scary that day, picking a fight with the auto mechanic and the p eople there knew us for a long time that they just let him vent out and screamed. I never came back home that night fearing that we could get physical to one another. Then the next day he brought all my personal belongings to my temporary home and it's been almost 3 months now that we are separated. I tried to make amends, begged, grovel and all that etc to no avail. He told me to move on. Then I pressed him hard why so quick to give up ? is there another woman,. Husband said he already started dating. Yesterday I begged again but no luck and I asked if he started seeing this girl before we separated? he said after the fact. I have been driving around his block to see if he is home but 5 days to a week he's not home so I assumed he is staying with his girl therefore, I think that he knew this person from before and not just recently. I emailed him today told him that nothing is left for us to do but to start the proceeding . He said he will work on it very soon. I am v ery hurt by this. What is my chance?

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