My husband and his woman friend!!

hi all. i dated my now husband of 10days for 3.5 years. during the 3.5 years there were major trust issues on his part, not mine. he has lied to me about his supposidly friendships with different women, coming to find out the majority of them were ex's of some sort. all that is now and has been behind us and we were able to move on, be happy and get married. except this one female friend that he claims has been a long time childhood friend that nothing has happened between them, EVER. when we were dating for the first 2 years, i hardly ever heard of this woman. he rarely talked about her to me. he did in fact mention to me that they were really good friends but i had never met her or talked with her over the phone nor was it a constant conversation about her. i knew that she lived about an hour away from us and they still did not link up or talk too much to my knowledge. in the last and 3rd year of our relationship before we got married, we moved to anoth er city to better our lifestyle and now we're actually about 20 minutes away from where she lives. (didnt take that into consideration at the time because there were no signs of issues at the time) He did finally introduce us at his mothers house when we were all going out to a theater play and he told me he invited her and she was meeting us at his mothers house. from the moment i met her, it was something about her that i did not like. i honestly dont know what it is, but i just didnt get good vibes from her. now we've been in our new house for a year or so and its like they talk EVERYDAY on the phone. we've only been married for 10 days to be exact, and before we got married i told him i didnt feel comfortable with their relationship, because when i check the phone records online i had seen where they talk everyday for about 5-10 minutes tops and a few texts here and there. i also found on the phone records just one time where they were even texting late at night while i was asleep and he was in bed next to me. i told him thats very disrespectful and he hasnt done that again but he said he doesnt care, im going to have to trust him, nothing is going on between them and they are just really good friends and everyone knows it. he told me i am being insecure with the whole situation and he is not letting his friendship go with her. and if i cant handle it or understand that then that is my problem and if i leave then i leave. he said she has been there for him over the past 20 or so years as a true friend when no one else was there for him, even his own parents and family and to that he is very grateful of the friendship and even now that we're married he's not going to stop talking with her and i basically need to get over it. he says he loves me and gives me the speech about how he does not want to lose me blah, blah, blah. so today he told me he's borrowing $1500 from her (he buys and sells cars on the side as well as work full time) so th at he can buy a car and sell it to make some extra money that we dont have because we just got back from vacation and is strapped for cash. and i told him i had a problem with that, he said to him she is like family and im taking things out of control.

My question is; is it normal for a married man to talk to a friend of the opposite sex EVERYDAY? its like they cant live without each other. Even on our honeymoon wedding vacation they text each other. am i really that wrong in this situation? i just feel that now that we're married, i should be the only women he converse with on an intellectual level. i dont know what they talk about. i get so upset i dont even ask or if he tells me i dont believe him anyway. what would you do if this were you?

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