Hi all,
I am a 20 year old college sophomore. Last year I dated a woman for 9 months. It started great then the last month or so of our relationship went south and it ended terribly. Over the past summer she contacted me 5 times. The first time was to inform me she had a new man. The next three were saying that she had attempted suicide, again and again. The last time she contacted me was to say she had a miscarriage with my child while we were still together. I later found out that she had been cheating on me for most of our relationship and I was only being used by while she was away from home at school.
Before this relationship I had always fallen for a girl and liked her for extended periods of time. I fell into the "friendzone", i'd help them work through their problems with their ex's, their own self labeled "flaws". Through my entire course of growing up i've been used multiple times by girls. So trusting them isn't something that comes easy for me. However, they'll open up because they feel like I care about what they say. I genuinely do care.
Right now in my life there is a girl who I have already taken fancy to. I tried to be extremely nice at first and we became fairly close and had great conversations. Now I am just fed up with it not going any where else. I accidentally told her off today and I really regret it.
Now I am stuck wondering if it's worth my time to even be genuinely nice anymore, it doesn't work. I see the girls constantly falling for the pricks and just once it would be great for someone to feel the same way I do towards them.
Any advice on what actions to take to avoid being friendzoned or just in general be able to judge who the users will be in the long run? Also, what should I do with this new girl, I am fairly sure she knows I am into her
I am a 20 year old college sophomore. Last year I dated a woman for 9 months. It started great then the last month or so of our relationship went south and it ended terribly. Over the past summer she contacted me 5 times. The first time was to inform me she had a new man. The next three were saying that she had attempted suicide, again and again. The last time she contacted me was to say she had a miscarriage with my child while we were still together. I later found out that she had been cheating on me for most of our relationship and I was only being used by while she was away from home at school.
Before this relationship I had always fallen for a girl and liked her for extended periods of time. I fell into the "friendzone", i'd help them work through their problems with their ex's, their own self labeled "flaws". Through my entire course of growing up i've been used multiple times by girls. So trusting them isn't something that comes easy for me. However, they'll open up because they feel like I care about what they say. I genuinely do care.
Right now in my life there is a girl who I have already taken fancy to. I tried to be extremely nice at first and we became fairly close and had great conversations. Now I am just fed up with it not going any where else. I accidentally told her off today and I really regret it.
Now I am stuck wondering if it's worth my time to even be genuinely nice anymore, it doesn't work. I see the girls constantly falling for the pricks and just once it would be great for someone to feel the same way I do towards them.
Any advice on what actions to take to avoid being friendzoned or just in general be able to judge who the users will be in the long run? Also, what should I do with this new girl, I am fairly sure she knows I am into her
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