LD men (or low frequency, at any rate) and anxiety/anger?

In my marriage, I am definitely the HD one. I think about sex frequently, am very sexually attracted to my husband, and would love to try new things, be "taken," the whole 9 yards. I am also much more experienced than my husband, but I have never gone full disclosure because I don't want to hurt him or make him feel bad about his lack of experience. He's a great lover -- it just doesn't happen as often as I would like...and I get tired of initiating. I sympathize with the fellows who are married to LD women...and frankly, there are times when I wish I was LD too. At present, we have sex 1-2 times per week (on average). Sometimes more, sometimes way less. He travels a lot. He has obsessive-compulsive disorder and takes Prozac to keep it under control. In the past, he has had issues with maintaining an erection because his anxiety takes over and shuts off blood flow to the penis. Fun times. At any rate, most of that (the anxiety) is behind us...but we seem to have other problems related to sex now. For instance, he is very ritualistic (thanks to the OCD, no doubt). He prefers sex at bedtime (I prefer sex when I am energized/awake...not sleepy). He rarely initiates, but when he does...it's always in the exact same way: light kisses (almost chaste) or rubbing my leg somewhat frantically - lol! And sometimes, he acts like a little kid -- which completely grosses me out. There is no slow tease...nor undressing...let alone being "taken." (In fact, fellas? If you are doing this with your LD wives, STOP. It's maddening. Don't do a stupid little dance. Don't do baby talk. Seriously. Stop. Many women take care of children all day -- and we definitely don't want to have sex with one.) It skeevs me out to no end. We've talked about it (at great length) and he has learned to rein it in, but every once in awhile, he still does it. Most of the time, though, I am the one who initiates. I have tried stifling my desire or refusing to initiate, but damn. I get crabby after 2 days or so. And frankly, I'm tired of doing all of the work. In a way, I think it is worse for HD women married to LD men because there is a certain feeling of rejection that is unique to being a woman. After all, we are supposedly being chased around the house all day, right? Eh. I knew all of this when I married him, but like so many naive people, I thought he would find his stride and get more comfortable over time. The sex is good to great -- when we get there. Mutually satisfying. I am capable of multiple orgasms, so that's fun...but it's rare that he is interested in bringing me to orgasm more than once. And he is NEVER interested in sex twice in one day...which makes me sad. There is very little foreplay, but I'm usually ready to go anyway...so that's the least of my concerns (though I would love to slow down and enjoy it). I don't really know how to boost his sex drive. He doesn't appear to be low T because frankly, he has a lot of anger issues, to boot. Flies off the handle quickly. He works out regularly, eats well, has a muscular physique. I can hardly keep my hands off of him...and it seems like he's just not on the same page. I'm in good shape (especially for a 39 year-old mother of two) and would be considered "beautiful" by most people. I've been struggling with this for years. When we talk about it, he says nothing...which is funny, because he has a lot to say on just about every topic. He's not the strong, silent type...lol! Definitely chatty...just not when it comes to sex. Sometimes I wonder if he has shame issues around sex. Or anxiety about boundaries. When we do stuff that is "outside of the box," he loves it. Responds to it so well...but then never brings it up again. It's hit or miss. :( Thoughts from the fellows (or ladies) who have dealt with this? Especially anxiety issues? I feel like I'm starving...and we all know that it can lead to resentment, flirting, cheating, emotional affairs, etc. I'm not saying I'm there -- I'm just saying that I understand how people get there. :scratchhead::confused:

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