Very complicated, serious questions, issues regarding my unusual relationship

Hello, I hope that I am posting in the right section. I have always been too shy to ask for advice/help, so over the past 6 months, I have been reading internet articles or questions for help. However, I find myself in almost a hopeless situation, but I love him and do not wish to let him go. Here is some info on us: Him: 1. He is Asian 2. In his mid 20s 3. Has a good job and a degree as a software engineer 4. He is very popular and social; has a great reputation 5. He is a very kind, thoughtful guy 6. Has LOTS of friends; many of them mutual 7. He likes to jump on a bunch of new/different projects at once, even when he is very busy already 8. His parents/family are traditional and "judgmental", but as far as I know, they do not know about me "yet". 9. We share similar hobbies and activities, so we help and support each other in events (he is better than I am) 10. He is much smarter than I am, in my opinion Me: 1. I am black; but look mixed 2. I am a bit older than he is 3. I have a low-paying job, but my own apartment and car (although I live with my sister) 4. I am popular as well, and at times, he almost seems intimedated by it 5. He refers to me as being "very beautiful", despite my low self-esteem 6. I am more religious than he is (different religions); I try to be a decent person regardless, and people say that I am very sweet 7. Despite my age, I am still a virgin, for moral reasons; he has been with a few other girls 8. I always support him with whatever he is involved in 9. My younger sister does not like him, for some reason 10. He says I am less judgmental, smarter with my feelings than he is ....... We began dating 7 months ago; at first, he would text me all the time, practically beg me to hang out, offer to do so many things for/with me, etc. I sacrificed a bit to be with him, due to my beliefs, reputation, etc-- he was orginally very shy to even ADMIT having a crush on me. So we went to the movies, then 2 more dates until we decided to "try" us. My rules were no sex before marriage, and that we keep it a secret (for the sake of us both), while his rules were that he was not looking for anything serious; that he would not label us/change our FB statuses. So because of our jobs (he worked 9-5), weekends off, and I worked nights, with no weekends off unless I requested off for events), we would go out once a week or every other week, but we did see eachother at events on random Saturdays. He is the PERFECT gentleman; he opens doors, carries things for me, takes me out to dinner/pays for EVERYTHING (despite the fact that I am independent and would like to pay sometimes) supports me, constantly asks if I am all right, asks my permission before doing certain things, updates me , helps whenever he can, encourages me, cares about my family, etc. Eventually, he began to label me as his "girlfriend", and told a few of our mutual friends about us, because he feels I am a great catch, for some reason. So last month, he began having personal issues with family, a few of his friends fighting and most of all, at HIS JOB. His boss did some awful things and eventually fired him, then he went MIA for nearly a month; would not speak to ANYONE and went into a deep depression, until getting a new job earlier this month... I feel as though he has not entirely gotten over his pain/the experience, but he has taken me out twice this month (once for my birthday), and has been seeing his friends very often, as well as working on projects outside of work. However, before his personal issues had started, he began contacting me less and less. He would keep me updated every day at first, and to this day, still does apologize for his lack of contact, etc. But many times, I told him that he does not always need to explain himself to me, because I know he is VERY busy, and that I appreciate it. I also feel as though his friends (one of his best friends is a beautiful ex co worker), are more important than I am. He sees them more often than me, even when I have the days off, and even though he no longer works with them. I would hate to seem needy (I rarely text him; I respond immediately, but I hate to bother him), but is it normal for a couple, who lives 10 minutes away, has been together for 7 months, to see each other once or twice a month, and for him to go through so many changes? Also, I forgot to mention that at times, he seems uncomfortable with me touching, kissing him on the cheek, etc...He once told me that he did not want a massage in order to not get in the mood, and that he would never want to take my virginity, because it would heart & means a lot to me. BTW, his recent ex was ALSO a virgin, and they were going to get married, but had a conflict (they were together for years, on and off). My sister said because we are not sleeping together, he does not have a strong bond. He never told me he loves me, but he does seem to show it in many ways, but IDK. I wanted to talk to him about many of my concerns, but something ALWAYS comes up or we are in the middle of enjoying ourselves. I would rather us not waste each other's time if we are doomed, but he usually tells me if he has an issue with something. BTW, he has not texted me in more than a week, while he used to wait 3 days AT THE MOST. Please, any advice is welcomed. I know that he originally did not want anything serious, but he seemed to be changing his tune after that. Thanks.

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