trusting your husband - self-help books

Can anyone recommend me a really good book on building trust in a marriage please? Here is my story. There have been several things about my husband that have troubled me since getting married....Its long but I hope someone reads it and gives me their perspective. Do you think I am overreacting and should trust him? Are these mistakes that can be forgiven? Or am I stuck with a man that seems to have the tendency to cheat on me like the little devil on my shoulder says he does? First mistake he made: My then fiance (now husband) and I made a pact about his bachelor party night. I was in tears and inconsolable asking him not to go to a strip club or get a lapdance. He agreed, consoled me said it would not happen, trust him. Well it did. I found out through a text and he admitted it. He said he asked his friends not to take him to one and all plans were going accordingly but in the drunkedness and heat of the moment, when some friends suggested to go, he relented (as he had always wanted a traditional bachelor party) and went. He however told me he did not get a lapdance. A few months later, I kept pestering him on the subject as I thought something else was still hidden. He then admitted that he had gotten a lapdance as well. I was broken. His total lack of respect for me and his promises to me and the fact that he didnt confess himself but I had to find out myself and that he lied to me twice! Second mistake: While we were chatting long distance and starting to develop a relation, I thought he was the one and had started falling for him. I thought he was feeling the same about me. We had started calling each other everyday and we would talk about holding hands and were flirting incessantly. However we never set boundaries and said we could or could not see other people. But I thought this was a given. When we started officially dating and living together, I found out that during our initial long distance chat days, he has gone out with and slept with several girls..Eww while he was being flirty and romantic with me. He said he was sorry but we never discussed what was allowed and he was used to a single lifestyle then and we hadnt met yet and just cause we had started chatting and being romantic to a certain extent, we hadnt officially started dating. Once we met and started being serious, he said he hasn't been with any girl. I still misjudged him though and feel stupid and viola ted. Third - while he was in a relationship with his x and they were longdistance in college, he kept dating girls and sleeping with them. Apparently he never cheated on his x but when they had fights or were in a break or whatever he did those things. He said he was not married then and he was younger and that he is not the same and will never do the same to me. But he has this ability to seperate sex with love which really bother me! When he had his rough patches with his x he was able to sleep with other girls. Fourth - while he was in a relationship with his x during his college days, he frequently visited strip clubs and got lapdances. apparently his x didnt like it but she wasnt SOO opposed as me. He hasnt been to one for a while though and esp since he has been with me except that infamous bachelor party night. Do you guys think I am overreacting or has he shown enough characteristics to show he CAN cheat on me and I should not trust him? Again, can someone recommend me a book please? Thanks...

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