Attitude Is Everything

I posted this years ago in the ladies lounge, but wanted to bring it back from the dead here in the Success In Marriage section since it's something I believe helped my marriage. Just wanted to share something that I've learned. Ladies, we are hardest on ourselves when it comes to appearance and I've learned that a great attitude trumps a perfect body or face any day. -Ladies, when your husband compliments you, please accept it. My husband told me a while back that my weight gain did not turn him off, but always putting myself down, and not believing him when he gave me a compliment was a HUGE turnoff. I had lost about 40 lbs. and I would still not be happy because I wanted to lose more. My husband would get so frustrated by this and told me I should be proud of my accomplishment. I've never been obese, but I'm still a bit overweight (and medication that I'm on is making it harder to lose), but I feel very comfortable with my body. I've learned to accept my husband's compliments and believe that he really does find me sexy. Yes, as I've aged, my breasts droop more, but I believe my husband when he carries on about how much he loves them. Our favorite sexual position is me on top, where he can get a good view and admire my body and I, his. Sex is so much better when you allow your husband to admire and enjoy your body and are confident in letting him. -A nice personality goes a long way. Who wants to spend thier time with someone who's a pill? I know I'm pretty, but I'm certainly not the prettiest. My body is not a 10. I totally believe what makes me most attractive is my smile. I've come to think of it as my signature. I can't tell you how many customers at work comment that I'm always smiling. Not a phony smile, but a true smile that comes from within. It's so natural I don't realize I'm doing it. I've even bumped into people that I haven't seen in about 15 years and was told that they recognized who I was as soon as I smiled. Just some observations I've made that have helped me in making my marriage better, and wanted to share. ETA: Being confident with yourself and how you look doesn't mean let yourself go and look like a slob and expect your spouse to desire you as he once did. Keep yourself as nice as you can for your spouse, but don't beat yourself up for not looking like a 19 yr. old forever or not looking "perfect" whatever that means.

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