Should it have been my responsibility to get my husband up for work?

My husband has a very nasty habit of overusing his FMLA when he just doesn't want to go into work. Lately it has been bad and he's not gone into work 8 days in the past 3 weeks (took the full week off last week!) and has used up all his FMLA for the month. Of course he used up vacation and sick time months ago. So he's not getting paid for any of the days he takes off which makes for a basically non-existant paycheck. Well last night I went to bed at about 9PM. He said he was going to finish his drink and shut down his computer and then he'd be in. Well I wake up about 11PM and he still hasn't come to bed. I lay awake for about an hour and think about going into the computer room to ask what he's doing but he gets so annoyed when I do that and always goes "Yes I'll be going to work tomorrow just let me finish this game and I'll come to bed." So I turned on the light and started reading. I assumed at this point he had decided that he wasn't going to be going into work. He comes to bed finally at almost 1AM when he told me he'd be in shortly after 9! He had obviously had much more to drink after I went to bed and was noticeably tipsy. He sets his alarm for the usual 3:30. Well I knew 2 1/2 hours of sleep was not going to cut it. The alarm goes off at 3:30 and he hits snooze....again and again and again. He hits it every 10 minutes until 4:45 and then sits up like a shot in bed and goes "It's almost 5? How did I miss all those other alarms?" Um... you've been hitting the alarm for the past hour. He gets up and gets partially dressed and then realizes he's not going to make it in on time. I don't understand how being 15 minutes late is going to be a huge blow against him compared to taking an entire day off. He goes "Well I'm screwed. I don't have anymore FMLA days this month to use. I'll have to get a doctor's note." That's his last resort when he needs a day off and has no more days left. Now I am just waiting for him to get up and blame me for not getting him up for work when I was awake the whole time. Well I assumed by coming to bed way late and hitting the alarm every time it went off that he was going to sleep in or just not go to work. It is NOT my responsibility to get a 45 year old man up for work! Whenever I do try to get him up, when he specifically tells me to make sure he gets up in the morning, those are the mornings he still doesn't go in so why should I bother. I can't keep worrying about him going to bed on time and waking up on time. It's too stressful for me. I certainly would never blame him if I overslept!

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