a nothing-man needs to vent

New to forums, but not this problem. I see I just tried to hijack another's thread, and thought I should move it here. Hadn't intended to lead with this one (some other "Focused Topics" apply to me as well). Well, here I am. This is what I said "over there". I suppose it's a bit of a pity party, but I'm trying not to censor myself too much just yet. Let me just say ahead of time, of course it's not just her fault. But, this is just my pain: Quote: Originally Posted by Toffer (Post 637956) she said it wasn't until recently (within the last year) that she realized/learned about the connection for men to the emotional aspect of sex. On that subject, and how painful and devastating frequent rejection can be to a man, his mental and physical health over the longterm, and ultimately the viability of the partnership. I wish there was a way to let LD spouses have glimpse of a very broken sex- and loved-starved man's soul. Not to induce guilt, but to provide the gift of knowledge of exactly how truly painful and emasculating (is that the right word?.) it can be, and how destructive it can be to marriages, including the atmosphere the children grow up in. I don't want to pollute your thread with too much of my pain, but she sounds like a loving partner in general and would never want you to end up as I am now, or have her marriage end up as my wife and I's. This is truly important for you and her to not ignore this issue and let the damage accumulate. Well, that's what I was thinking anyways as I got up from the lunch table with tears in my eyes hoping I'd run into no one on the way to my car. It's ironic that in the movies men are often portrayed as hedonistic selfish users of women's bodies. All I really wanted was to feel connected and loved (Ok, that's not all I ever wanted, but it was so most of the time). I used to think the lowest point in my life as a man was at about age 24 when I, then a very shy and nervous dateless virgin, stepped foot into a local strip joint (sorry ladies) for, we'll, essentially my first eyeful (just an eyeful). It was a very humbling and humiliating experience at the time. It just showed me a fantasy version (not even mine) of what i wasnt man enough to have. Little did I know my future marriage full of rejection would make me feel even less of a man on a day to day basis. I hope I haven't shared too much. Ill stop here snd eventually start my own thread. Now back to your thread. (Actually, I feel a little better now, or at least think I'm starting to feel something for a change, thanks for the opportunity.)

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