This is screwed up

we been together 3.5 years she thinks i cheated on her she said she wanted space and time to find herself, and what she wanted. she wanted to see if she would miss me blah blah blah. so she signed a 6 month lease for an apartment. she has moved out most of everything but said she would stay here for the week and finish packing and going through stuff. well about a week ago i snooped through her phone. she broke up with me and its public on facebook she is single. since breaking up with me she has been on her phone A TON when she never used to be on it much when around me. so i got curious. we have been "single" since like october or december cant really remember, but she has lived in my house and we have continued having sex. well when i snooped i found a contact listed as "babycakes" and i started reading the messages and was devastated. i took pictures and sent them to my phone. i didnt have long as she was taking a nap right beside me. my dumbass self didnt get the number for the contact. her best friend just got divorced like 6 months ago. she claims its her best friend's ex husbands phone and number. her best friend was paying for the account and the phones and numbers, so when divorced she got her ex husbands phone and number. she said they were just playing a game because she had told me the pass code for her phone and she knew it was just a matter of time before i snooped. the messages were saying things like, i love you, i lost our baby, i hope you want a baby with me, i hope you love me, i hope you stay real with me, good morning love, how in the world did 3 women screw up to let me have u, good night baby i love you, im home baby, i honestly love you and hope you love me, so next week when u get off work u gonna come stay with me if i have my apartment. the person whoever she was texting rarely replied. she would send 20 they would send 1. but they replied twice with well i love you im going to bed. i didnt have time to see how far back the messages went, or what else might have been said. she said its been going on since christmas. i got on the internet and checked the dates and times of the messages with the pictures of the messages i had and it didnt really add up cuz it would say she text them at 5pm and the internet would say she hadnt text anyone at 5pm but i asked for the number of "babycakes" and the number she gave me on the internet she text them a lot and they rarely text back. so that adds up. one of the texts she text them "i tried calling u 3 times it went to voice mail" it was at 1:47pm and according to the internet she called the number she gave me at that exact time. so i dont think she is lying about the number. however i had a friend text the number and they replied they were ashley and didnt know her best friend(by name). this ashely person said they hadnt had the number long. i had another friend call the number, it was a girl she said she was ashley and said she didnt know her best friend(by name). this same friend text asking how long they had the number. after a guy called and said they have had the number a year but 2 weeks ago gave it to his little sister ashley but he said he still uses it sometimes. so after all this and after i confronted my girl she stopped talking text or calls to that number for days. well then the calls started back up. in 2 days the number called her 7 times she called them 2 times. no texts. every time it was perfect timing, like they discussed when to call or talk again. when she was at the laundry mat alone doing laundry they talked. when she would go to her apartment to unload stuff they would talk. well when she was at the laundry mat alone, they had a 25 minute conversation. usually they are 1-5 minutes long but this one was 25 mins. she said she was texting her best friend from christmas till 2 weeks ago. then she guesses her best friend gave it to one of her friends. she said she doesnt know and has never met this new person she is talking to. so i dont know what they would talk about for 25 minutes. i think she is either talking to someone or she gave me her friends number which is why they continue talking. anyways i dont know if she is talking to a guy or a friend. i dont know if she is talking to a guy or just playing a game on me. knowing ill keep checking the internet seeing when they text and talk. she still lives with me right now and says she will for this week. late 2/3/13 she mentioned having sex and said its been a while. she is in process of switching birth control so she has nothing right now so i went and got condoms and we had sex. well last night we went to bed i picked up the box of condoms making sure thats what they were(it was upside down) and she said maybe in the morning. well morning came and she said she was tired and didnt sleep good at all with our son in the bed. i tried to start something after we slept some more and she said no. this was after she talked to that number for 25 mins yesterday. she also left for work and didnt kiss me, first time since we been together. i asked about it she said sorry and sent me a pic of lips. she didnt say she forgot or anything just sorry. last thing i will say is(before i snooped and all) she said maybe after the 6 months we can have a baby. well she knows i dont want kids so its not like i want kids and she is using that to make me think positive or nothing is going on, cuz i dont want kids. but anyways i dont know what to do right now. i dont know whats going on. she promised to not date or have guy friends over so i know if i ever go over and there is a guy im done because their a friend or more and she promised not to do that. but i cant go over there all the time cuz ill have my son on my days off and she gets off work when he will be asleep. im not loading him up to go spy in middle of the night. i havent asked or confronted her about still talking to this person since she doesnt know them and it was just a game to see if i trusted her. ill never know if she dates or has sex during this 6 months. i feel like im the back up plan. she can give it a trial run for 6 months talking and or dating and if it dont work she can come back to me. i would never tell her this, but i wouldnt care if she talked or dated but no kiss and no sex. i feel if she kisses or has sex she doesnt love me. if she just talked or dated she might find out how she feels about me, be it good or bad. i dont know what to do, what to believe. sorry it was so long, its just a long story

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