Need some quick/easy advice.

I'm going to try and make a long story short. I just want a plan of action and I want to follow through with it. My wife had an affair and I discovered it in December. Initially she wanted to work out our marriage but we have other problems as well. Nothing really major in my opinion but oh well. She claims she can't look at me, she's ruined our marriage, and she is having a hard time living with herself. We got in a huge argument over me wanted to call the guys wife last week, which I did. She moved in with her mom that night and has been there every since. I have asked her if she wants a divorce and she said she feels like it's the right thing. She's not very convincing, almost as if she is saying it out of guilt for what she has done. I have asked her to come back home everyday, She tells me she loves me but that she can't come back home. I gave her some divorce forms to look over and she got upset at me after she has told me she wants a divorce? I mentioned that I've been going out on the town and that I would maybe start dating and she got upset? What does she expect? So... I have asked her to go out with me, on a date and she says its not a good idea? What the hell? I'm confused. Should I keep "chasing" her or should I just stop and start down the road of divorce? She seems to want to talk to me everyday but doesn't want to see me, date me, or spend any time together. I am lost on what to do. I really want her back I think... because I dont want to lose our marriage but I want to keep my self respect, pride, and dignity also.

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