Husband Continues to Spend and Break Promise

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. I have always been a saver while he has always been a spender. I handle most of the finances and he gives me money every month to pay his portion. During the summer of 2011 he had an emotion affair. We have since been working on healing the broken trust and moving forward. We go to a counselor roughly once a month and this has been great. During our counseling the money spending issues have come up. He will often not have enough at the end of the month to pay his portion of the rent/food/utilities so I will have to cover for him. Because of this, I constantly stress that we will have enought to pay the bills. We have worked on many different ways of fixing this, but so far nothing has worked. During counseling we agreed that if either one of us were to make any big purchases we would need to discuss with each other to make sure there was enough money. We defined big purchase to be anything over $100. A few months after we agreed upon this he made a $700 purchase without telling me. I found out of course and was extremely upset. I explained that this is all part of regaining trust from his emotional affair and that if he can't keep a promise we can't rebuild trust together. He promised up and down that he wouldn't do it again during one of our counseling sessions. Said he didn't think it related to the promise because of what the purchase was (he typically buys motorcycle parts and this was not related to bikes). I made it clear that I was at the end of my rope and couldn't deal with the broken promises anymore. Fast forward a few months and he has once again broken the promise. This time he took out a $5000 loan from his 401K bought over $1500 in parts for his bike and paid of one loan. I don't know where to go from here. A small part of me says to walk away, but I love him a lot. Has anyone had these issues in the past that you were able to fix? Any suggestions are appreciated. Our next counselor session is early next month.

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