Husband And Female Friend

Good Afternoon Lovelies, My Husband and I have known each other since before I got my menstrual cycle (lol) and we reconnected in our adult (mid-twenties). It was immediately known we were meant to be, etc, all the good news and love. Now we are married and nothing has really caused to much of a rift for the exception him and his female friend. Nothing has gone too far, but in my explanation this is how it goes. I have been open to him having a female friend, and I allowed her to come to our house for a small BBQ (Him, I, her and her son). And all was fine, but she then brought up a conversation by saying, "Is it true men jack off in jail?" (he spent a little time in jail, and her brother is currently incarcerated). Which too me is disrespectful, so I let them both know, conversations concerning sexual relations is inappropriate with my husband. So immediately I did not like the level of comfortability she had, they had in conversation. She left that night and I went to bathe and fell asleep. The next morning my Husband says that they were outside talking until 7am. I had to explain to him that sometimes it's time to cut things short out of respect for our Marriage. Another time, she told him, "I know you cannot come over alone, so do you guys want to come over for football sunday?" and then asked me. And the same situation occured once again that I mentioned above, that same n ight. And it has become a compilation of small events that have continuously occured that I am left feeling "No" about. Not to mention at our reception she was tracing his tattoos with her finger until her Mom yelled at her to stop. Yes he addressed the situation and apologized to me, but it's so stupid that he did not recognize what everyone seen. But I like the woman, and I am just confused, because she has told him I do not like her, and he says I do not like her, but I am more aggravated at the fact they would rather settle to the fact I do not like her, then to understand my slighted feeling about their relationship. It's easier for them to just say I do not like her then to understand my quam. And if she feels this way, why does she feel it okay to still contact my Husband? And yes I did tell my husband this and he just stayed quiet. One of the good things about my husband is he understands me when I say "tone it down", which he has, but he does not understand my reasoning. He just listens (which is nice, lol). They have both felt it necessary to verbalize to me nothing sexual has occured with them, but to me I do not care. He is a married man now and as I told him, his relationship with her needs to tone down. Because there is absolutely nothing that can benefit from their relationship then an affair. Her being once married and divorced, now a single mother should understand this without it even have came to this. Beyond anything else, she has not made any direction to befriend me. And I have not either, but I did not find it necessary to be trying to make her be my friend. It's evident to me she is only interested in his friendship and not mines, which will not be possible as time passes. He always ask me to text her and call her, etc but it just seems stupid to me. I am strong woman and know what I want and do not want in a marriage, and relations with opposite sex, is not what I want. I have filtered my male friends to speak to my Husband before me, and this is how has been and now they hang out like they have known each other for years. Otherwise, I am exhausted. Just looking for understanding from other reasonably married people with logic. Peace and blessing with lot's of Love.

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