How to establish rules for people interfering & disapprove of my marriage?

I have very recently got married to my husband who I've been with for 2½ years, We decided to elope last month, My family and friends are disappointed I didn't have a 'Big White Wedding' but we just wanted it to be personal & about just us. We have our own house just outside my hometown but we mostly live on the road driving across country as its part of my husbands job, He deals in things that some people don't agree with although I can say he will never be directly in possession of something illegal, That's all I'll say about his job! I'm 26 but before I met him I was a little too 'wild' and I was a nightmare to my family. My mom likes my husband but she constantly tells me he is no good for me & I once overheard her say to my sister that I was a pretty young thing that is emotionally unstable that i'm the only one who will put up with who he really is because she realizes nobody else would put up with my antics. I would say that sometimes our relationship can be very volatile at times like a few weeks ago we were at a bar just the two of us, My husband went to the bathroom & came back to some guy coming onto me I found this funny and laughed until, My husband punched the guy in the face & when we got back to the motel he was so angry with me he punched the door when he walked out, but honestly I love him so much I could scream. He comes from a broken home and has no contact with them, My best friend even 'jokes' calling him a tortured soul and says he is as damned as he seems but yet claims they really like him. All this hurts to hear & everyone tells us we rushed into marriage and that I was too young and foolish because I left everything behind to be with him, Which I did give up almost everything but I love him & know he is worth it. Sometimes I just can't get enough of him but at the same time, he's more than I can take, If that makes sense. We are going to a get together this weekend with family & friends and Im dreading it because I know whats going to be said about us in 'jokes', About how we should be and that we'll regret getting married. Advice on this would be helpful because It really hurts to hear this & I feel Im not too far away from having even less to do with them. Thanks.

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