Anyone living a separate life to spouse in same house?

Hello everyone, kind of a continuation from my earlier thread "when there is no reasoning..." but a different question. I'd like to know if anyone out there actually lives in the same house as their spouse but lives a different life and makes it work? It's becoming ever more evident that my H is Passive/Aggressive, has given me the silent treatment for over 2 weeks, I'm in the spare room (all because of an argument regarding him not sharing in a family event - one of many). He never wants to see my family or friends, we never go out, he never wants to talk about real problems or issues, is in total denial about everything, pretends all is ok. I've gone past hurt, intense emotions, trying to get him to open up. It's impossible. He'd rather shove everything under that rug. He goes to work, then at weekends works on his cars. I think at the moment he's actually enjoying some sense of new found "freedom" - he's in the marital bed on his own, has come and gone as he's chosen. It won't last long I'm sure. Right now I actually don't care. I have a big issue with him refusing to see my folks and friends (my earlier post explains his abandonment issues, not getting close to people) and until he can embrace sharing our lives fully I'll just stay put, do a 180 on him and live my life. Eventually there will be some event he'll want to attend with me - it will be HIS friends, HIS family (just his Mum now). Has anyone done this and just become "friends" with their spouse? We don't have anything in common. This morning, for the very first time, he opened the bedroom door where I'm sleeping (am very comfy in there!), says "thought I'd give you an FYI, am off to the car garage and not in the office for the next day or so, have fun, see you later" - as though the last 2 weeks never happened.... An FYI?! he's never said that to me, ever. Are we at work here? (kind of made me chuckle). If he can't talk, won't talk, refuses to open up, then only time will tell. I'm prepared to wait it out and watch him from a distance,,,,there are no tears being cried into my pillow. Just distance, growing...

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