Suspicion and Reconciliation

I am new to TAM, my story is probably similar to many others. We are working on a reconciliation for about 9 months now. My WS has been more than cooperative with me, willing to answer my questions and be respectful of my boundaries, MC, etc. However, I have become so suspicious of all of his actions. I have NEVER been either a jealous or suspicious person and I hate this about myself. When these feelings surface, I tell myself I am being silly and reading into things that are not there. Now I see other women smile at him and I immediately jump to come kind of conclusion that he smiled first.... or he chats with someone in a public place and I think he is flirting. Here is my question: What have others on TAM done to cope with this incessant suspicion? The triggers come and go, I've learned to deal with them mostly, but this feeling of suspicion...not good. Any thoughts would be appreciated

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