Is it even worth the effort?

Background- My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years, married for the last 7 months. He is military and we met on his way home from deployment. It was love at first sight, and we hit it off right away. We did the long distance thing for almost 2 years (he was stationed in Hawaii and I lived in Alaska) and he was also deployed again for 7 months. We took turns visiting each other, and talked/texted/video chat almost everyday in between. After the first 6 months that we were dating, I discovered that there was another female claiming him as her boyfriend very publicly on a social network. I confronted him about it and he denied it... said that she wanted more from him, but that she was just a friend. I asked him to handle it to which he agreed. The next day I saw that things were not fixed, so I took matters into my own hands. This lead to our break up of 4 months during which time he was still 'friends' with her. She posted pictures of the two of them on a trip to his moms' that I was supposed to be on, and he told me that those were from years ago. When we got back together, I wasn't in the right state of mind to do so but went ahead with it because all I wanted was him. He apologized constantly for letting me go, vowed to make it up to me but still never admitted to anything. He was deployed less than a month after we reconciled. Prior to our reunion I was living the single life, trying to get over him and had other persons of interests in my life. Instead of being honest with everyone I kept secrets. My husband was my main priority, but I wasn't ready to let go of any of the others because I was scared that history would repeat itself and I had also grown accustomed to the attention that I was receiving from others and knew that with him gone, he would not be able to provide it. The first couple months I kept it going, nothing physical but it was just as bad. Along with dealing with this, I also had to deal with his 'friend' messaging me and telling me that he denied me to her, that he was a cheater, I wasn't the only one and all sorts of things. I felt like I was in high school. I stopped communication with everyone but my husband, but never told him for fear that he would leave. He had completely changed from our first run and I had fallen in love with him all over again. When he came home it was heaven for about 2 months. Then I noticed he was always texting certain individuals and became extremely secretive with his phone. He went through mine and saw messages with my other suitors (for lack of a better term). We got into a heated argument where he tried to leave. I begged him to stay and promised it wouldn't happen again. We got married and I moved to be with him. Things did not get better. Immediately after I moved down I saw things that broke my heart and left me physically ill. Between text messages and emails there more than a handful of different females that were being contacted on more than a friendship level. I confronted him every single time but it just ended in arguments. He would be upset that I went through his phone while he was sle eping and I was upset for the obvious. I threatened to leave numerous times if things didn't change, and he attempted to kick me out but could never let me go. He always has excuses and no matter how ridiculous they are, I stay. I remember how hard it was to be without him and I don't want to go through that again. We were recently stationed somewhere new and I thought we would get a fresh start. Things started off good, but the weight of everything I was holding in and going through was taking it's toll and I decided to go home for a couple weeks and clear my head. The entire time I was gone I thought that we were building our relationship again. He found out about all suitors that I had while he was gone and I was able to tell him exactly how unhappy I was. We decided to give it another try. Two weeks after I got home I found out that there was another female... again. She contacted me and told me that she had been dating him for almost a month. She had been in my house, my car and went to lunch with my husband several times. I confronted him, he said that she just wanted more. Over the next few weeks I discovered two more females ; one he met on a dating website and one he met at work. I know in my heart that I need to leave. This isn't a healthy relationship and I don't deserve it. He's said that what happened while I was gone he did out of spite for what I did while he was overseas. I'm living out of my suitcase because I am trying to force myself to leave. He says if I do leave that things are over and our marriage is done. I don't want it to be for I am truly in love with this man. We are going to try marriage counseling, but at this point I don't even know if it's worth it. I feel he isn't telling the whole truth and if he doesn't, how can we truly recover?

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