I Cheated on my husband... Now what?

I cheated on my husband while we were separated for nearly 4 months. It started off as an emotional attachment then got a little physical (kissing and hands on bodies). After that had happened it felt so wrong that I began to cry and asked the other guy to leave and waited for my husband to call. But I couldn't tell him. A week or two went by and I was lonely again, and called the other guy. He came over and things went a little further yet again (oral). After that we knew it was done. So, he and I basically quit talking all together. My husband, I guess saw it coming. Me having mentioned this other guy a lot (we work together) and my husband knew that he had taken me out for my birthday with a group of others. I admitted everything to my husband, and a week later he moved in with me. (Already mid-move when he found out). So we've been living together and adjusting to the married life for about 2 months now. Been married for 6. I am currently the only one working. He keeps moving money from my bank account to his to spend on, "Cigarettes and food" but i'm not seeing it. I just don't know how to help him or make it easier. I'm basically bending over backwards to do anything that might help, and it's just not. Maybe even getting worse. No need to tell me how awful I am. Believe me, I hate myself more than you would even like to know. Just need some guidance.

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