Girls night out....

Hi Everyone, My wife and I have been married for 3 years, together for 7 and are both right around 30 years old. Once in awhile she goes out with her friends, I would say a handful of times a year. The problem I run across is it always involves either bar hopping or clubbing with the "girls." All these girls, wife included, drink and get drunk, the goal always seems to get wasted. They take cabs and whatnot, but I dont feel comfortable with the whole situation. I feel that when my wife drinks, her judgement is altered and she becomes flirtatious just as many women get when they are tipsy or drunk. A little background on our relationship. I have always been a jealous and insecure guy, I am honest about that. I spoke with counselors and really have improved. While I would have no problem with her going to a restaraunt, movies, or to a friends home to drink with the "girls", going to the club/bar to drink and "party" in my eyes is trying to feel single. I was at bars, I know why guys are there and what the intentions are. I know when they see girls getting drunk, they will attempt to move in. I also do not feel comfortable with my wife dancing/grinding with other men. Am I normal? Is this my insecurity/jealousness, or is this a normal reaction? I really do want to be a good husband, and I really want my wife to have a good life, and to be happy. While I know that I have been jealous in the past, I am really trying to turn a new leaf the past few years. The girls she is going out with would be my best friends gf, who is a straight up clubber and some other singl e girls. My sister may go as well, but she is a huge partier as well and while some may feel more comfortable, it actually worries me more because of what I know about her actions in the past. Its really a tough spot for me and just looking for advice so I dont create another fight at home. If I voice my concern, I am afraid she is just gonna say that I am controlling her etc because of my past, I dont really see a way to bring this up without that conoctation being placed on me. I thought about writing an email and listing my reasons being that we are married, and bars/clubs are a single type of activity that is basically a meat market. I am at a loss here and looking for help. My next upcoming issue, will be a bachelerotte party for my party going sister, in no other place than Vegas. I really dont even know what to do then, but thats a ways away. Please help this guy out who really loves his wife, really wants to do the right thing, but doesnt understand the appeal to do the whole bar/club thing if you are married. Thanks for your time Dave

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