Do Cheaters Ever Realize They're Putting Their Kids Last?

My ex has resolved himself to being a "mall dad". He takes our oldest son on the weekend but chose not to change his work schedule (he could if he wanted to, but instead takes Thursdays and Fridays off instead of Sat/Sun.) He works until 5/6 pm on the weekends and leaves our oldest in the care of his mom or brother and then takes our son to fun places like the movies or buys him expensive things like tech gadgets, Nike shoes and video games or even systems. I am sure it's out of guilt but he only seems guilty enough to spoil our kids with money and not time. He visits the youngest for fifteen minutes to an hour about twice a week - though many times once a week only. He seems to be head over heels for another woman and spends his days off talking/hanging out with her instead of our boys. My oldest has started to react to our separation. He has emotional crying fits/melt-downs, an attitude problem and even got in a physical fight with a boy at his after-school program. Our kids are ages 8 and 4 months old. We've been separated since D-Day (broken up as we weren't legally married), which was back in August. I told him that our oldest is coming last and he insists that he does not put him last. However work, dating, and buying things and being late on child support etc. comes before spending a lot of time with our boys.

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