First off, my husband is by no means a romantic person and he never really was. I never wanted a hopeless romantic, but it doesn't hurt every now and then to get any gesture. Anyway, We have been married since June 2011, and we were together for 3 years before that. However, we only started living together after we got married.
The first year was kind of a rocky road, but it was still a good year. Ever since our anniversary and things have been going downhill. My husband works 6 days a week from 9 to 7 and he goes out with his friends 5 times a week. On the weekends, he likes to take the dog to the park so he can play. I decided that I do not want to work even though I have had plenty of offers. I do not get bored during the day because there is so much that needs to be done with the housework, cooking, the dog and everything else. However, there is almost no time for us to talk, go out, watch a movie or basically do anything because he is either at work or out with friends. I have asked repeatedly that I would like us to spend more time together and I have been given empty promises.
We have been fighting way more and he keeps picking fights over non-significant reasons. We had a fight last week because he was mad that I had some bags scattered around the house that i hadn't had time to pick up (and seriously they weren't really bothering anyone). Ever since the fight, we have been sleeping in separate bedrooms and we almost never talk. The only time he talked to me was to ask if iI've fed the dog or not. This isn't the first time that we slept in separate rooms; I am the one who moves out of our room and take the guest room instead.
I finally decided it's time to talk and went to the room and told him I need to talk to you and his response was that he is going to sleep because he has work tomorrow and it was only 8pm. I did not say a word and just left the room and went back to "my" room.
I seriously do not know how/when will this pass? Fights have been almost every other week and it's seriously driving us apart.
Before I met my husband I was always a "my pride" kind of person, but I am starting to feel like I have turned into a doormat and it is really depressing me. I feel like he doesn't respect me anymore, and I really have no idea what I could do to make this relationship work?
The first year was kind of a rocky road, but it was still a good year. Ever since our anniversary and things have been going downhill. My husband works 6 days a week from 9 to 7 and he goes out with his friends 5 times a week. On the weekends, he likes to take the dog to the park so he can play. I decided that I do not want to work even though I have had plenty of offers. I do not get bored during the day because there is so much that needs to be done with the housework, cooking, the dog and everything else. However, there is almost no time for us to talk, go out, watch a movie or basically do anything because he is either at work or out with friends. I have asked repeatedly that I would like us to spend more time together and I have been given empty promises.
We have been fighting way more and he keeps picking fights over non-significant reasons. We had a fight last week because he was mad that I had some bags scattered around the house that i hadn't had time to pick up (and seriously they weren't really bothering anyone). Ever since the fight, we have been sleeping in separate bedrooms and we almost never talk. The only time he talked to me was to ask if iI've fed the dog or not. This isn't the first time that we slept in separate rooms; I am the one who moves out of our room and take the guest room instead.
I finally decided it's time to talk and went to the room and told him I need to talk to you and his response was that he is going to sleep because he has work tomorrow and it was only 8pm. I did not say a word and just left the room and went back to "my" room.
I seriously do not know how/when will this pass? Fights have been almost every other week and it's seriously driving us apart.
Before I met my husband I was always a "my pride" kind of person, but I am starting to feel like I have turned into a doormat and it is really depressing me. I feel like he doesn't respect me anymore, and I really have no idea what I could do to make this relationship work?
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