We are divorced. Our divorce is final. We live separately and have for quite sometime. We have child custody order and visitation in place. I have moved on - he seems to refuse to do so.
He was very controlling during our marriage and is still controlling even when we are divorced. It has caused so much conflict that we are unable to co-parent. The court even ordered us to go to classes. A mandatory 8 week class to learn how to co-parent without conflict. It has been a miserable failure. I want it to be successful. I want to be able to raise children with this person. We have two amazing kids who deserve two parents who can at least be there for them if they can not be married.
He is just determined to show my kids what a terrible person I am. Yes, I did move on. Yes, I have dated. Yes, I have made mistakes. But No, I never cheated on him. No, I did not date anyone until after we were completely done. He became religious after I left him and decided that we are married for life and even though we are divorced, we are not divorced in the eyes of the Lord. He tells our children this kind of stuff!
Anyway, I am just so frustrated. I go to these classes weekly and he just sits there and only has something to say when whatever he says is going to relate in some way to something I have done. Something he can use to get a dig in.
Can anyone else relate? I am honestly not sure exactly what I am looking for here... maybe just a place to vent. Some hope, some sympathy, some understanding... I don't know. Thanks for reading.
He was very controlling during our marriage and is still controlling even when we are divorced. It has caused so much conflict that we are unable to co-parent. The court even ordered us to go to classes. A mandatory 8 week class to learn how to co-parent without conflict. It has been a miserable failure. I want it to be successful. I want to be able to raise children with this person. We have two amazing kids who deserve two parents who can at least be there for them if they can not be married.
He is just determined to show my kids what a terrible person I am. Yes, I did move on. Yes, I have dated. Yes, I have made mistakes. But No, I never cheated on him. No, I did not date anyone until after we were completely done. He became religious after I left him and decided that we are married for life and even though we are divorced, we are not divorced in the eyes of the Lord. He tells our children this kind of stuff!
Anyway, I am just so frustrated. I go to these classes weekly and he just sits there and only has something to say when whatever he says is going to relate in some way to something I have done. Something he can use to get a dig in.
Can anyone else relate? I am honestly not sure exactly what I am looking for here... maybe just a place to vent. Some hope, some sympathy, some understanding... I don't know. Thanks for reading.
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