My husband and I been together for 7 years now (married 4 years ago). He had a previous relationship before we met that lasted 5 years. he was my first. He loved her a lot and she left him. he was very hurt. At the beginning of our relationship, i was very jealous. So he stopped mentioning her. when she knew he was in a serious relationship, she started calling him, told him that she left her fiance. and then she calls his family and starts crying that she regrets leaving him.
We talked about this. He did not make any comment.
couple years later i knew he was calling her to wish her a happy birthday or so.. and that he was seeing another ex-girlfriend (he claimed nothing was happening they were just talking... It was a huge problem but we solved it.
After that, i became more mature in my relationship with him. i became less jealous. we got married, we had twins and I thought everything was wonderful.
Its been 2 years now that i feel he doesnt love or maybe never loved me... It is just the little things: he never gives a compliment (he says he doesnt want me to get ****y) never hugs me and kisses me for no reason. he doesnt like to go out with me..if we go out he will have a frown on his face, or doesnt say a word the whole time. he doesnt smile when we take a picture together ( i know this sounds silly) he comes home from work, play a little bit with kids then go to his "play room" and plays video games. if he came to sit next to me he will be playing with his phone. he is very different with his family and friends. he's very social and funny guy.
when i told him how i feel. he wasnt chocked he said that i am nagging and that there are always things im not happy about. to defend himself he said he is most comfortable with me (he said this while playing games) and that all he knows is that he doesnt like me to get hurt and that when im gone he misses me but if im next to him he sure doesnt.
he's always tired for sex. i once stopped having sex because i thought he's not into it. he said im exaggerating and he made a suggestion that we can schedule every Monday to have sex... i accepted but this is just killing me.. i hate it.
my fear is that he sees that he downgraded himself with me. his ex was a doctor, more social, a big family. im a teacher, not so social, broken family. sometimes i think he just stayed with me because we had sex before marriage (it is a huge thing in our society)
Am i being paranoid? is it just me? or this is too much?
excuse my english. it is not my native language
We talked about this. He did not make any comment.
couple years later i knew he was calling her to wish her a happy birthday or so.. and that he was seeing another ex-girlfriend (he claimed nothing was happening they were just talking... It was a huge problem but we solved it.
After that, i became more mature in my relationship with him. i became less jealous. we got married, we had twins and I thought everything was wonderful.
Its been 2 years now that i feel he doesnt love or maybe never loved me... It is just the little things: he never gives a compliment (he says he doesnt want me to get ****y) never hugs me and kisses me for no reason. he doesnt like to go out with me..if we go out he will have a frown on his face, or doesnt say a word the whole time. he doesnt smile when we take a picture together ( i know this sounds silly) he comes home from work, play a little bit with kids then go to his "play room" and plays video games. if he came to sit next to me he will be playing with his phone. he is very different with his family and friends. he's very social and funny guy.
when i told him how i feel. he wasnt chocked he said that i am nagging and that there are always things im not happy about. to defend himself he said he is most comfortable with me (he said this while playing games) and that all he knows is that he doesnt like me to get hurt and that when im gone he misses me but if im next to him he sure doesnt.
he's always tired for sex. i once stopped having sex because i thought he's not into it. he said im exaggerating and he made a suggestion that we can schedule every Monday to have sex... i accepted but this is just killing me.. i hate it.
my fear is that he sees that he downgraded himself with me. his ex was a doctor, more social, a big family. im a teacher, not so social, broken family. sometimes i think he just stayed with me because we had sex before marriage (it is a huge thing in our society)
Am i being paranoid? is it just me? or this is too much?
excuse my english. it is not my native language
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