| Hi all; beloved hubby and my marriage seems to have reached a sexual hiatus. I am 36, he is 38, married for 7 years, together for 9, no kids. A pretty rocky relationship from the start, but worth it somehow as we are still together, I may get into that sometime; serious financial pressure dating back almost 5 years, a separation and another man 2 years ago, reconciliation in progress with a lot of days, some good and some really bad. He is (bless him) in a job he currently loves and stands to do very well in. I am not so lucky in work and am tending bar to help make ends meet while we drag ourselves through this. We love each other and are doing all we can to work things out (definitely think there has been moderate rug sweeping about my affair but can get into that a bit later) I just wanted to give you some background before heading into my current issue. Ive noticed sex is becoming decidedly ho-hum these days. Sometimes hubby doesnt even bother for me to be ready (and I tell him so) before unleashing the kraken. His techniques don't seem to work as well on me as they used to. I dont get as aroused and I'm having a problem with my orgasms these days, although I can "self pleasure" to finish no problem. We always used to be very sexually compatible and not so much these days it seems, there's a problem with the connection... I don't feel as desired by him as I used to and this is a problem for me as it affects my desire in turn. We don't have sex as often as we used to. I admit I am the LD of the pair of us but I am addicted to beloved hubbys sperm and find myself getting moody if my levels are running low. :D However he also now waits a lot for me to initiate and I prefer him to be aggressive which affects my responses. I feel unhappy about it. We do pass over it but nothing seems to come of it and I don't want to come across wrong as it is a sensitive topic. Communication is not our strong point. Could this still be infidelity backlash? We haven't fought about it for a while and to be honest, he gets so angry when it comes up that I am a bit of a coward initiating it. How do I find out and how do I handle it? Could work be affecting him that badly? he is working really hard and like I said we've had (are having) serious financial issues. It never seemed to be a problem before. Could it be me? maybe I should get my health checked... Any other opinions? Tx. | |||
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