Sorry, this is long but I need some help and sound advice.
I've been married to my husband for 6 years this month. He's a wonderful man, hard working, a loving father and husband. I was never an insecure person in our relationship. I started to slowly become insecure in the past 6 months. It started off with him bringing up his ex wife a lot and it was in a very negative way.
From assuming that she is with her new boyfriend to cause problems for him (he's an old buddy of his), to criticizing the way she has dyed her hair, to avoiding her place of work. The only response he has recieved from me is, "Why does it matter what she is doing? She's in your past. Just let her be happy." They have no children together.
The past year, our marriage has been struggling. In that period of time, my husband has threatened divorce, that's he unhappy with his life, that he wished I would go live with my family or that he would rather be single. He's also calls me names out of anger and has threatened to hurt me twice. A lot of his aggressive behavior is never provoked. Every time I try to talk some sense into him his reasoning is that work is stressing him out and he's sorry.
I have a feeling that his behavior is deeper than just the "stress from work" excuse. I decided to be "that wife" and do a little investigating. I checked his Facebook, found numerous times where he intentionally searched his ex wife and an ex girlfriend. I checked his activity log, which mostly consisted of a lot of 'likes' and comments on his ex girlfriend's status updates and pictures (one of them in her bikini). He even has been bringing up old memories they've shared.
He has told me in passing that this ex girlfriend is coming over to our house to bring cupcakes for my birthday this month.
Last night I told him how excited I was about the cupcakes and asked him about her baking business. He showed me her baking page, what he had ordered and even the communication between them on that page. However, he felt it necessary to tell me that this was the only time he has talked to his ex girlfriend.
Also, shortly after he came home from work, he said he had to use the restroom. After a period of time, he came down and said he was on the phone with his boss. His boss wants him to plans a guys weekend in a couple of weeks. Which is out of the norm for him. I started bringing up guy friends he could bring with, all of them he seemed really hesitant about inviting.
These things are starting to happen one right after the other. I just need to know, am I overreacting? Is this some type of test I'm being put through to see how well I trust my husband or is he cheating? I haven't accused him of anything, not without any real proof but part of me feels terrible for even considering my husband is being unfaithful.
I've been married to my husband for 6 years this month. He's a wonderful man, hard working, a loving father and husband. I was never an insecure person in our relationship. I started to slowly become insecure in the past 6 months. It started off with him bringing up his ex wife a lot and it was in a very negative way.
From assuming that she is with her new boyfriend to cause problems for him (he's an old buddy of his), to criticizing the way she has dyed her hair, to avoiding her place of work. The only response he has recieved from me is, "Why does it matter what she is doing? She's in your past. Just let her be happy." They have no children together.
The past year, our marriage has been struggling. In that period of time, my husband has threatened divorce, that's he unhappy with his life, that he wished I would go live with my family or that he would rather be single. He's also calls me names out of anger and has threatened to hurt me twice. A lot of his aggressive behavior is never provoked. Every time I try to talk some sense into him his reasoning is that work is stressing him out and he's sorry.
I have a feeling that his behavior is deeper than just the "stress from work" excuse. I decided to be "that wife" and do a little investigating. I checked his Facebook, found numerous times where he intentionally searched his ex wife and an ex girlfriend. I checked his activity log, which mostly consisted of a lot of 'likes' and comments on his ex girlfriend's status updates and pictures (one of them in her bikini). He even has been bringing up old memories they've shared.
He has told me in passing that this ex girlfriend is coming over to our house to bring cupcakes for my birthday this month.
Last night I told him how excited I was about the cupcakes and asked him about her baking business. He showed me her baking page, what he had ordered and even the communication between them on that page. However, he felt it necessary to tell me that this was the only time he has talked to his ex girlfriend.
Also, shortly after he came home from work, he said he had to use the restroom. After a period of time, he came down and said he was on the phone with his boss. His boss wants him to plans a guys weekend in a couple of weeks. Which is out of the norm for him. I started bringing up guy friends he could bring with, all of them he seemed really hesitant about inviting.
These things are starting to happen one right after the other. I just need to know, am I overreacting? Is this some type of test I'm being put through to see how well I trust my husband or is he cheating? I haven't accused him of anything, not without any real proof but part of me feels terrible for even considering my husband is being unfaithful.
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