OK, I know that sounds horrible and I know it does the opposite, but I pose this question to HD folks out there to ask themselves if they are able to recognize their use of guilt in the ritual of sexual initiation?
I'll admit I was not readily aware that I was doing this to my wife and can now see the negative impact it would have her. For example I know I tend to forget things easily but my wife caught me in the act of having what she labels "sexual amnesia!" This is when we have great sex together, but in less than 48 hours I begin thinking that it has been over a week since it last happened and that I can only wait so long before it becomes too frustrating!
In this case things had gotten a little out of hand this past weekend as I overestimated a critical measurement when applying coconut oil. This Tuesday afternoon when she was not exactly in the mood my wife looked at me and said, you still have not cleaned up that glob of coconut oil you spilled on the floor, and I defended myself right away claiming that my Mondays are always hectic. She then says, you spilled that on Sunday when exactly what happened? I was like, "ooooohhhhh yeah!" :|
So here I am getting rather good sex almost every other day, and making my wife feel like she never gives it to me when I initiate. After realizing what I had done, I quickly changed my attitude and apologized! Instead of talking about how long it has been, I just told her how great she is, and then the sparks started to fly....
....anyway, "guilt!" Do any of the other HD folks out there ever stop for a minute to realize that your partner will probably not ever get a chance to be playful or fun when we play the guilt card repeatedly in an effort to rig the game of sexual pursuit? It is also an such an easy card to play that requires no effort that we may not even realize how often we use it...
As for me, I am now making an active effort to retire that card!
Cheers,
Badsanta
I'll admit I was not readily aware that I was doing this to my wife and can now see the negative impact it would have her. For example I know I tend to forget things easily but my wife caught me in the act of having what she labels "sexual amnesia!" This is when we have great sex together, but in less than 48 hours I begin thinking that it has been over a week since it last happened and that I can only wait so long before it becomes too frustrating!
In this case things had gotten a little out of hand this past weekend as I overestimated a critical measurement when applying coconut oil. This Tuesday afternoon when she was not exactly in the mood my wife looked at me and said, you still have not cleaned up that glob of coconut oil you spilled on the floor, and I defended myself right away claiming that my Mondays are always hectic. She then says, you spilled that on Sunday when exactly what happened? I was like, "ooooohhhhh yeah!" :|
So here I am getting rather good sex almost every other day, and making my wife feel like she never gives it to me when I initiate. After realizing what I had done, I quickly changed my attitude and apologized! Instead of talking about how long it has been, I just told her how great she is, and then the sparks started to fly....
....anyway, "guilt!" Do any of the other HD folks out there ever stop for a minute to realize that your partner will probably not ever get a chance to be playful or fun when we play the guilt card repeatedly in an effort to rig the game of sexual pursuit? It is also an such an easy card to play that requires no effort that we may not even realize how often we use it...
As for me, I am now making an active effort to retire that card!
Cheers,
Badsanta
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