So my stbx and I are currently separated. Earlier this month he had a stroke. He's doing ok now that I know of, we don't really talk.
Well, I got a letter in the mail saying he changed his beneficiary designation for death gratuity to someone else other than his spouse (me). I was not even aware of this. The military sent me a letter because they were required to notify me of the changes.
Honestly it's not even about the money. It hurts all over again because it's like a slap in the face--- its that reality check that he's already moved on and the pain he's caused this past year resurfaces all over again.
But we're not even divorced yet. We haven't even started the process (I'm waiting to fulfill my residency requirement).
It would have been nice for him to discuss this with me. Or am I overreacting? Honest opinions please.
Well, I got a letter in the mail saying he changed his beneficiary designation for death gratuity to someone else other than his spouse (me). I was not even aware of this. The military sent me a letter because they were required to notify me of the changes.
Honestly it's not even about the money. It hurts all over again because it's like a slap in the face--- its that reality check that he's already moved on and the pain he's caused this past year resurfaces all over again.
But we're not even divorced yet. We haven't even started the process (I'm waiting to fulfill my residency requirement).
It would have been nice for him to discuss this with me. Or am I overreacting? Honest opinions please.
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment