For those of you that know my story, this has all shaken out very, very quickly. I had been making tremendous strides, but this event has triggered some emotions. According to my lawyer, she didn't even read through it all and then asked how soon the judge signs.
As a reminder to everyone, she is severe alcoholic and narcissist. She started to emotionally check out at about the time of our wedding about three months ago. Plenty of evidence that she had been involved in at least an emotional affair with her equally alcoholic ex-boyfriend who had been aggressively pursuing her since we got engaged. Probably physical affair as well. No way to prove.
Word is that he promised to marry her. They sure are in a rush. My understanding is that they are essentially the laughing stock among the bar "gang" that they hang out with. They could be wanting to push the divorce, so he can put a ring on her finger and "justify" the affair. I suppose there's an outside chance she is preggers, although she has an IUD (unless she lied about that as well), hates kids, and has already had an abortion.
Either way, it doesn't matter. Just another trigger event today. I have maintained zero contact with her and frankly, though I hurt about the whole thing and the way it went down, I have lost all respect for her as a person. Crazy days, folks.
PS - I had a session with a mindfulness therapist who specializes in (obviously) a mindfulness approach to healing, chakra balancing, etc. It was actually very powerful and gave me a whole new perspective on this thing. Felt great yesterday. Today, I am having a moment but, like I said, it's a trigger event. Down deep, I am so very grateful to be out of it and to have dodged the bullet of an extended period of ongoing alcoholic and abused/damaged girl trauma. It would only have gotten worse and I would have only gotten more attached.
Onward and upward.
As a reminder to everyone, she is severe alcoholic and narcissist. She started to emotionally check out at about the time of our wedding about three months ago. Plenty of evidence that she had been involved in at least an emotional affair with her equally alcoholic ex-boyfriend who had been aggressively pursuing her since we got engaged. Probably physical affair as well. No way to prove.
Word is that he promised to marry her. They sure are in a rush. My understanding is that they are essentially the laughing stock among the bar "gang" that they hang out with. They could be wanting to push the divorce, so he can put a ring on her finger and "justify" the affair. I suppose there's an outside chance she is preggers, although she has an IUD (unless she lied about that as well), hates kids, and has already had an abortion.
Either way, it doesn't matter. Just another trigger event today. I have maintained zero contact with her and frankly, though I hurt about the whole thing and the way it went down, I have lost all respect for her as a person. Crazy days, folks.
PS - I had a session with a mindfulness therapist who specializes in (obviously) a mindfulness approach to healing, chakra balancing, etc. It was actually very powerful and gave me a whole new perspective on this thing. Felt great yesterday. Today, I am having a moment but, like I said, it's a trigger event. Down deep, I am so very grateful to be out of it and to have dodged the bullet of an extended period of ongoing alcoholic and abused/damaged girl trauma. It would only have gotten worse and I would have only gotten more attached.
Onward and upward.
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