To be honest, while I understand some of the behaviors that lead to my wife asking to be separated I am shocked that it got to that partly because her communication to me was never in this realm before.
She has a communication issue and suffers from Fibro which compounds everything. I have an anger issue but it is sporadic when it gets the better of me and while that is not ok in any way and I am starting therapy tomorrow ironically, it may be that I don't have an outburst for 9 months or a year in between.
We have a 4.5 year daughter and have been together for 11 years, married for 9.
I love my wife and our family and realize I have an act to clean up but feel like we went from mostly happy to over it from her point of view which in fact may be she wasn't telling me how she felt.
All of if for me is a non-starter from the standpoint of saving my marriage - I can forgive and i can change and will but want to stick together.
Reading posts from women who no longer 'like' their husbands but still love them, I can't tell if we come back from this or how to approach it to give us the best chance possible for reconciliation? of course working on me and getting my ability to argue with less anger is going to have to happen regardless...
Am I toast, suggestions on what I can do? I am reading books, starting therapy and have my own apt to give her space...
She has a communication issue and suffers from Fibro which compounds everything. I have an anger issue but it is sporadic when it gets the better of me and while that is not ok in any way and I am starting therapy tomorrow ironically, it may be that I don't have an outburst for 9 months or a year in between.
We have a 4.5 year daughter and have been together for 11 years, married for 9.
I love my wife and our family and realize I have an act to clean up but feel like we went from mostly happy to over it from her point of view which in fact may be she wasn't telling me how she felt.
All of if for me is a non-starter from the standpoint of saving my marriage - I can forgive and i can change and will but want to stick together.
Reading posts from women who no longer 'like' their husbands but still love them, I can't tell if we come back from this or how to approach it to give us the best chance possible for reconciliation? of course working on me and getting my ability to argue with less anger is going to have to happen regardless...
Am I toast, suggestions on what I can do? I am reading books, starting therapy and have my own apt to give her space...
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