Let me start off by giving some backfround information about myself and about a girl I like...
I'm 19 years old and studying at college. I'm doing A Levels and a BTEC Level 3 course at the moment, and am going to university this year in September. The girl whom I like is 18, and is studying in the same college. She's not doing A Levels like me (she's doing Level 2 Maths, BTEC Level 2 Science and BTEC Level 3 Health and Social Care).
Now, let me explain what the current situation is like...
Both me and the girl are in the same Health and Social Care (HSC) class, and we sit next to each other for all lessons, and work together for any assignments we are set. We, many a time, joke around with each other during the lesson times. Also, whenever our HSC lesson finishes, we walk together to our different classes.
Because of these things, many people think that we're going out (in fact, we're not). Some people even asked us both straight away if we're in a relationship (and both of us said that we were just friends). We were both aware of the fact that many people in the college thought that we were going out.
Now, I really like her, but I'm uncertain if she likes me back. Like I said earlier, we both have a good laugh in the HSC lessons, and very frequently engage in funny banters. I also, sometimes, think that she likes me back*too. This is because I think she is*giving off signs too, e.g. by teasing me in a friendly manner, always playing with her hair when we're sitting together, maintaining a good eye-contact, etc.
On the other hand, I also, at the same time, feel that she is just being kind and friendly and treating me nothing more than a friend :S. Also, even if she does like me, I don't think she could tell me and is trying to conceal her feelings. One reason may be that both of us have different religions (she's a Muslim, while I'm a Christian), but belong to the same background (Indian) nonetheless. She also had a boyfriend a few months back and they broke up last October. She told me about this herself in December, and ever since I've been trying to impress her so that she too reciprocates the feelings I have for her. Note that I have had a crush of her ever since the first time I saw her, but when I found out that she had a boyfriend, I stopped trying to get her.
Also, she knows that I am quite good academically, and that I am a good pianist too. And sometimes I brag about it in an attempt to impress her.
My questions for you...
- How could I find out if she likes me (by not asking her directly obviously)?
- How can I know if she is not merely friend-zoning me?
- If she is friendzoning me then should I stop trying to get her and forget her? And, if so, how (because we sit next to each other for 9 hours/week, work on the assignments togethed, and always walk together to our different classes after the HSC lesson finishes)?
- Do you think if she's holding back her feelings due to us belonging to different religions?
- Could she be trying to conceal her feelings because she thinks that I'll be leaving for university fairly soon, while she will be in college for another year? She was telling me recently, with a sad expression on her face, that she would have nobody to talk to in HSC next year because I won't be in the college next year.
These questions have been badgering me for the last many days, and I genuinely want to know if all of my efforts to get this girl are just going in vain? I would really appreciate if someone could have a go at answering these questions, and give me any advice about what I could do in this situation. Cheers.
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