My wife and I have been married for 4 years now. We have a 2y/o and one on the way. And we only have them because somehow by the grace of anything that is holy. I was allowed to have sex with her. I mean in the years that we've been married I can count how may times we've had sex on both hands.
When we were dating we were staying with some mutual friends. She didn't want to because it was their house. Then due to some circumstances we had to move in with her parents house (we were engaged at this point). There she didn't want to because (i figured) it was her parents house. And no locks on the doors. And it's her parents house. So I thought well once we're married things will get better. Nope still the same. Even when nobody was home and we had the house to ourselves for the weekend.
I got a job out of state, so we moved out. Me again thinking it will get better. Nope, not really. I got to have sex once in our new apartment. And she got pregnant....
So I kept hearing people say "Man my wife wanted sex all the time she was pregnant" Or "she loved giving oral while pregnant" Not my wife. No sir. Our son turned 2. and about a month after that she let me have sex with her again.
Oh my lucky stars! I should have bought a lottery ticket that day. I was going to get laid! And she got pregnant again....
Seriously, I'm 35 she's 30. we should be going at it like rabbits. What is wrong with this woman? I've tried to talk to her about is. But her reaction is always "Oh shut up" or "you'll live" and laughs it off.
This is not the only problem. But I think it's a big contributor.
Other things are; shes a stay at home mom. So why is it when I get home the house is a pigsty. I don't expect sparkly clean, but tidy would be nice. So I kinda straighten up the place after working 14 hours.
When she cooks she doesn't clean up after herself. Leaves all the kitchen cabinet open after I've repeatedly asked her to close them when shes done so I don't hit my head against them. I'm 6'4", I'm a big dude. She just laughs and blows me off. Leaving me to clean the damn kitchen. I clean up after the cats. Which she got without telling me. I don't eve like cats. But I've got to take care of them.
She does the laundry. That's about it. And not even completely, because guess who's folding everything? Yours truly.
I'm really contemplating a divorce. But I don't want to because we have kids. I really do love my kids (even the unborn one, also a boy btw). But I'm not sure if I still love her. And also the fact that I'm 35, and this would be my second divorce.
I know it sounds like I'm putting her in a bad light, but this is really what goes on in our house.
I mean on some level I do love her. However, I think that's only because she's the mother of my children. And I don't feel that she loves me back. She says she does. but I don't feel it, if that makes sence.
I'm miserable. All my old friends just look at me and ask me what's wrong. I'm not the happy, fun, goofy guy they all know and love. I just don't feel I can be myself around her anymore.
Should I go through with this? And if I do, will I be able to find someone again? Like I want to, but I'm also afraid of the unknown...... Please help. Any advise....
When we were dating we were staying with some mutual friends. She didn't want to because it was their house. Then due to some circumstances we had to move in with her parents house (we were engaged at this point). There she didn't want to because (i figured) it was her parents house. And no locks on the doors. And it's her parents house. So I thought well once we're married things will get better. Nope still the same. Even when nobody was home and we had the house to ourselves for the weekend.
I got a job out of state, so we moved out. Me again thinking it will get better. Nope, not really. I got to have sex once in our new apartment. And she got pregnant....
So I kept hearing people say "Man my wife wanted sex all the time she was pregnant" Or "she loved giving oral while pregnant" Not my wife. No sir. Our son turned 2. and about a month after that she let me have sex with her again.
Oh my lucky stars! I should have bought a lottery ticket that day. I was going to get laid! And she got pregnant again....
Seriously, I'm 35 she's 30. we should be going at it like rabbits. What is wrong with this woman? I've tried to talk to her about is. But her reaction is always "Oh shut up" or "you'll live" and laughs it off.
This is not the only problem. But I think it's a big contributor.
Other things are; shes a stay at home mom. So why is it when I get home the house is a pigsty. I don't expect sparkly clean, but tidy would be nice. So I kinda straighten up the place after working 14 hours.
When she cooks she doesn't clean up after herself. Leaves all the kitchen cabinet open after I've repeatedly asked her to close them when shes done so I don't hit my head against them. I'm 6'4", I'm a big dude. She just laughs and blows me off. Leaving me to clean the damn kitchen. I clean up after the cats. Which she got without telling me. I don't eve like cats. But I've got to take care of them.
She does the laundry. That's about it. And not even completely, because guess who's folding everything? Yours truly.
I'm really contemplating a divorce. But I don't want to because we have kids. I really do love my kids (even the unborn one, also a boy btw). But I'm not sure if I still love her. And also the fact that I'm 35, and this would be my second divorce.
I know it sounds like I'm putting her in a bad light, but this is really what goes on in our house.
I mean on some level I do love her. However, I think that's only because she's the mother of my children. And I don't feel that she loves me back. She says she does. but I don't feel it, if that makes sence.
I'm miserable. All my old friends just look at me and ask me what's wrong. I'm not the happy, fun, goofy guy they all know and love. I just don't feel I can be myself around her anymore.
Should I go through with this? And if I do, will I be able to find someone again? Like I want to, but I'm also afraid of the unknown...... Please help. Any advise....
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