Hi,
I have posted here a few times before as to my struggling marriage, and have come to a point now where I have to be guided on the right path to save my marriage.
The problem lies with me, and I will explain why:
First of all, I was, due to brain damage from a car accident when i was 12, isolated from the world since. Chemical imbalances in my brain made me extremely anxious and depressed, and could not go to school or any other social event for that matter anymore.
After much trial and error with psychiatrists and specialists, I was taken out of school to do home schooling (which I did up until grade 10, and then went to college which lasted another 2 years).
I met my wife at college, and we have had endless issues with my anxiety since we met 10 years ago. We have been married for a year and a half now, but have reached the point of make or break.
Due to the isolation in my life, I missed out on a lot of "life-education". I do not know how to be confident, I do not know what my wife wants. Talking to her about it is not beneficial, as she is sick of my child like mind. She does not want to be responsible for me anymore, to be my mother.
So, now I am seeking help.
I am extremely co-dependent. I worship her, her every action is my life. Her happiness is my one goal in life.
I want to tell her how much I love her every second of the day, and it's smothering her.
If I had to lose her, I would not be able to go on.
I don't know what to do, I am absolutely clueless and so frustrated that I am to the point of where it feels like death is the better option- however, I will never do that. But the fact that I think that scares me so much.
I do not know how to be a husband, do not know how to act. I try new things, then am told their wrong or I'm over doing it. I need guidance so badly as to acting like a normal confident, attractive person.
All this is pushing her away so much, she even admitted it's making her stray.
I feel very low self esteem because of all this, and I feel like a manipulative monster. Appalling and repulsive person, though I am just trying to make her happy to the best of my ability.
I am currently on some SSRI's, but thinking of adding a supplement anti depressant to it.
But I am in need of guidance. Should I go see a psychiatrist? Should I ask for treatment for anxiety disorder and co-dependency?
I do not want to lose my marriage over this.
I have posted here a few times before as to my struggling marriage, and have come to a point now where I have to be guided on the right path to save my marriage.
The problem lies with me, and I will explain why:
First of all, I was, due to brain damage from a car accident when i was 12, isolated from the world since. Chemical imbalances in my brain made me extremely anxious and depressed, and could not go to school or any other social event for that matter anymore.
After much trial and error with psychiatrists and specialists, I was taken out of school to do home schooling (which I did up until grade 10, and then went to college which lasted another 2 years).
I met my wife at college, and we have had endless issues with my anxiety since we met 10 years ago. We have been married for a year and a half now, but have reached the point of make or break.
Due to the isolation in my life, I missed out on a lot of "life-education". I do not know how to be confident, I do not know what my wife wants. Talking to her about it is not beneficial, as she is sick of my child like mind. She does not want to be responsible for me anymore, to be my mother.
So, now I am seeking help.
I am extremely co-dependent. I worship her, her every action is my life. Her happiness is my one goal in life.
I want to tell her how much I love her every second of the day, and it's smothering her.
If I had to lose her, I would not be able to go on.
I don't know what to do, I am absolutely clueless and so frustrated that I am to the point of where it feels like death is the better option- however, I will never do that. But the fact that I think that scares me so much.
I do not know how to be a husband, do not know how to act. I try new things, then am told their wrong or I'm over doing it. I need guidance so badly as to acting like a normal confident, attractive person.
All this is pushing her away so much, she even admitted it's making her stray.
I feel very low self esteem because of all this, and I feel like a manipulative monster. Appalling and repulsive person, though I am just trying to make her happy to the best of my ability.
I am currently on some SSRI's, but thinking of adding a supplement anti depressant to it.
But I am in need of guidance. Should I go see a psychiatrist? Should I ask for treatment for anxiety disorder and co-dependency?
I do not want to lose my marriage over this.
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