Earlier this year and for the past several years my husband kept contacting his ex girlfriend from 15 years ago on Facebook, via text, and even calling her when I wasn't with him or out of town. These contacts would happen like once every 3 months and they never ended in him meeting up with her and she would never initiate contact. He'd call and it would show as a 1 minute call meaning that she didn't pick up. I would also see via Facebook messages that he told her he called or stopped by but the either didn't answer or wasn't home. Then there was this other girl on Facebook who he barely knows and he'd make comments about how hot she looked in her bikini and even offered to take her to this video game convention downtown because she was into it and I'm not and the day before came to his senses and told her he couldn't because he wasn't going (which was a lie). He however said to her in a message "I'll make it up to you though."
I went out of town for a week to visit my mom last month and the entire time all I think is that he's contacting these women and meeting up with them. To my surprise he did not contact either one of them. I covered all my bases to make sure. I checked phone records and text records and I knew who all the numbers were. There were no private messages on his Facebook to either of them. Not even a "like" on any of their posts. No emails sent. To say the least, I was shocked! Shocked in a good way but still I am trying to dig and find SOMETHING because it is so hard for me to believe him!
How can I get myself to trust him and stop checking texts and phone records? He also had an issue with going to work and I would be able to look at his timesheet online (unbeknownst to him) and see if he even clocked into work. Some days he just wasted time at breakfast somewhere for a few hours until I left for work and then came home and when I got home that afternoon he acted like he had been at work. However for the past month he has gone in every day...even when I was gone for a week which used to be prime time for him to not go to work. Everything points to him turning into a trusting and faithful husband, but I just can't get myself to believe it.
I went out of town for a week to visit my mom last month and the entire time all I think is that he's contacting these women and meeting up with them. To my surprise he did not contact either one of them. I covered all my bases to make sure. I checked phone records and text records and I knew who all the numbers were. There were no private messages on his Facebook to either of them. Not even a "like" on any of their posts. No emails sent. To say the least, I was shocked! Shocked in a good way but still I am trying to dig and find SOMETHING because it is so hard for me to believe him!
How can I get myself to trust him and stop checking texts and phone records? He also had an issue with going to work and I would be able to look at his timesheet online (unbeknownst to him) and see if he even clocked into work. Some days he just wasted time at breakfast somewhere for a few hours until I left for work and then came home and when I got home that afternoon he acted like he had been at work. However for the past month he has gone in every day...even when I was gone for a week which used to be prime time for him to not go to work. Everything points to him turning into a trusting and faithful husband, but I just can't get myself to believe it.
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